It Just Feels Fake...

I hate small talk because it just feels fake.  Talking to someone you dont really want to talk to just feels awful for me.  And it's like everyone feels this pressure to make small talk in certain situations .... like its required of them .... but really, it's not.  What is wrong with just not talking? Silently acknowledging that WE HAVE NOTHING TO TALK ABOUT ... so why feign interest and talk about silly nonsense?

Sometimes it just makes me so frustrated.  
outoftheshadows outoftheshadows
26-30, F
4 Responses Feb 9, 2008

I couldn't agree more! I hate small talk so much... it's so forced and pointless.
It's even worse when you're just walking past someone on the street and they're like "Hi, how are you doing?".
But they don't know me and we both know that they don't really care how I'm doing and if I gave an honest answer when I'm having a really ****** day, they'd just be like "what the **** is wrong with this person? I was just being 'polite'"

I hate it..<br />
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It drives me crazy at work<br />
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It has reached a point where i try to avoid the tea room at work.<br />
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I don't care if people think I am antisocial..<br />
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I just feel like there is only so much you can talk about with people at work.. after a while it gets repetitive and i don't like asking the same questions over and over.... SO BORING..<br />
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how can one's life be so shallow ??<br />
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how do people get energy off of being shallow 24/7.. it drives me crazy

I could have written this myself. Amen to that!!!

I think it's very cultural to the United States. I don't see much of it in Europe between strangers. I hate stores for small talk reasons sometimes. I doubt that when a store clerk asks me how I'm doing, he/she doesn't REALLY want to know how I'm REALLY doing. I also like to go through my day as unbothered by others as possible, but that's an introversion thing for me.

I know what you mean. A lot of times whenI am in a crowded situation, I will just Nod, and then excuse myself, from the situation. I try to find another person to talk to.