I Don't Smoke, Thankfully...

But both my mom, dad, and mom's boyfriend do...

I absolutley hate it when they smoke, 'specially when we're in the car...they think rolling the windows down stops it all...but no, they are wrong...that smell still finds it's way to me and my brother in the backseat...and it starts a coughing attack (of course they think we are faking it)...

And then when we leave the car...i smell like second-hand smoke...ick...

I mean, I know that it is a very difficult habit to quit...but the least they could do is not smoke when me and my 10 year old brother is around...

Cigarettes suck...

7HIR7YS3V3N 7HIR7YS3V3N
18-21, M
3 Responses Apr 2, 2007

You are so right!!! I applaud you your honesty. I was raised Christian....yet my mother chain smokes around children. If I even approach the subject I get the stink eye and told I must forgive people of their sins if I expect to be forgiven my sins. It is emotional blackmail. I don't believe I sin intentionally and expect to be forgiven for things that I have control over not committing. I not only hate smoking.....I hate religion that teaches us we must forgive or be damned to hell for not overlooking damaging abuse to non smokers and innocent children. I have made tough decisions in my life such as quitting bad habits......if you truly have love in your heart and are not consumes with selfish ambitions.....I don't believe it is all that hard to quit smoking or at the very least be considerate enough to remove yourself from children and non smokers. Indoor smoking.....even in houses should be made illegal for the sake of children and the elderly. It is mental illness and should be treated as such. People should not have to worry about being alienated for wanting to live a wholesome lifestyle.

I see a therapist regularly to keep my thoughts in perspective about my hatred of smoking and my therapist told me....it is not unreasonable to remove abusive people from my life. I recently wrote them all letters explaining that I love myself too much to subject myself to their abuse any longer and I changed my phone number. My husband is very supportive and is also a little anxious, but the health benefits outweigh the anxiety I feel from dealing with people that obviously do not love themselves or anybody else. It is highly dysfunctional, mentally ill and a slow suicide. I cannot continue to show my love from them at a close distance, so I have removed myself and continue to love them from a distance. It is the best thing and message I can send to them and still be able to look myself in the mirror at the end of the day. I have found that smokers are highly adapted to gossip and I do not enjoy talking smack about other people, nor having to step outside in 100 degree weather to avoid second hand smoke....especially when they should be the one's to excuse themselves from indoor smoking. I am tired of being the victim or playing the victim to their abusive actions. I feel free and grown up for the first time in my adult life.....and honestly...... I don't think I will miss them all that much. Our values and lifestyles are at very different ends of the spectrum and I feel liberated taking a stand against such a filthy habit. thank you for allowing me to share with you my life long struggle with finding a solution to the guilt they heap on me. cheers.

Dude! i know what you mean. god im the ONLY non-smoker in my house, i have a 12 year old brother a 15 year old sister and both my parents.... yeah its pretty bad, expeically when i live in the basement and i have no walls in my room to keep the smoke out. and im allgergic to smoke so ill be dead by the time i move out ugh.... (-.-)

I had the same problem with my parents. And it was worse in the summer when we went on long trips. They would smoke in the front seats with the AC on and the windows rolled down. The smell would somehow still get to the backseat but the cold air wouldn't. I ended up spending most of my time at home up in my room with the door closed and a window open to avoid the smell.