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This Kid Is a Monster!

I had plans to go shopping and to dinner with a friend of mine today and had really been looking forward to it. And then she showed up with HIM!

She has the worst child in the world. He's 11-years-old and acts like a bratty 2-year-old. He threatens to hit her, actually does hit her, screams "I hate you!" at the top of his lungs in public places anytime he doesn't get his way. He has actually lain on the floor of a restaurant and kicked, cried and screamed because she wouldn't let him bring his stuffed animal to dinner! I've seen him throw food at a waitress, push smaller kids down and lie about doing it, and just be a mini-terrorist!

I cannot take this kid for even the smallest amount of time. And I LOVE kids. But he's not a child! He's an evil little troll demon! He has no mental health issues. She's had him tested and retested. The doctor's all say the same thing....he's spoiled! But she excuses his behavior. She says things like,"his father left and he needs extra love." or "It's a phase and he'll outgrow it." ARRRRGH!

I took one look at her when I saw that he was in the car today and said, "I'm sorry. I won't be going." She got upset and I didn't care. How on earth did she think we would have an enjoyable day when she will have to spend every moment telling him, "Stop. Don't. Please."? I've told her several times that I love her to death and love to spend time with her but not when he's with her. I can't deal with that type of bratty behavior from a child well over the age of such antics. I've explained to her that I don't invite him to my kids parties or other events because he's so disruptive and bullies the other kids. I've told her that his behavior will not be tolerated in my home and that if she brings him here she will be asked to leave. So, it should have been no surprise to her that I declined to go ahead with our plans. I just couldn't go...I got physically ill when I saw the kid because of the stress of just being around him.

I have kids. I have well behaved kids. They aren't perfect by a long shot. The oldest one is 18 now and still seems to think her room will magically clean itself. But when I tell her to clean it...she does and she does it without sassing me or giving any attitude.

My 4-year-old is also a good kid. She's going through a few typical problems for her age. But I don't let those slide. If she interrupts a conversation I remind her ONCE that it's rude and will not be excused a second time and I stick to my word! That's why she doesn't have temper tantrums.

And I am sooooo sick of hearing parents say that spanking a child is abuse! Abuse is when you BEAT them and inflict serious damage. A good swift swat on the butt never caused any child serious and irreversible harm! I had one friend that said, "Spanking your children causes them to fear you and no child should ever fear it's parents."

BULL!

EVERY child should have a HEALTHY fear of it's parents! I don't mean that they should cower in a corner when you walk into a room, but a healthy fear of something keeps people from doing stupid things.

I know that sticking my hand into an open flame will hurt. So, I don't stick my hand into open flames! I therefore have a healthy fear of fire because my fear of the pain caused by burning my hand keeps me from doing something stupid! And a spanking from mom or dad would keep a brat from being a brat!

I just can't stand bratty kids.

 

LeighLeigh LeighLeigh 36-40, F 8 Responses Jun 9, 2009

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I SO agree with you. My mom would NEVER allow me to disrespect her or any other adult. I have a friend who has a seven-year-old who still is allowed to have temper tantrums in public places. All she tells her is "it's not ok". She once spit at me and she (mom) did NOTHING. It took every ounce of my strength not to slap the little sh!t silly! (And the mom!)

Such a brilliant read. Thank God someone realizes that bending down and acting like your kid's best friend isn't true parenthood. I congragulate you.

You rock! Good for you for standing up for yourself. Your friend's son, undoubtedly now in high school, will be every teacher's worst nightmare ; i know, i had one this past year. Horrific!

Wow tell him to stop being a brat and PUNISH him if he leaves his time-out spot untill he can stay leave him their and well try it form their inform his parents about him being such a spolid brat!

I am totally on your side ,my dear: children should know discipline: that spoilt boy you are writing about may carry his horrible behaviour through all his life damaging himself and those around him.Sometimes we misunderstand love: love isn't spoiling a child but vice versa teaching him what good and bad is.The mother of that brat should read some proverbs from Bible.Tell her!

I don't agree I think he is angry at the world and confused and wants to feel safe and secure, he probably needs love and care and nurture, not spanking. He also needs discipline as a teaching not a punishment.

"And I am sooooo sick of hearing parents say that spanking a child is abuse! Abuse is when you BEAT them and inflict serious damage. A good swift swat on the butt never caused any child serious and irreversible harm! I had one friend that said, "Spanking your children causes them to fear you and no child should ever fear it's parents."<br />
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BULL!<br />
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EVERY child should have a HEALTHY fear of it's parents! I don't mean that they should cower in a corner when you walk into a room, but a healthy fear of something keeps people from doing stupid things"<br />
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But most people don't stop with a swat on the butt too many are using belts and such <br />
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and the kid ends up with fear frear not a healthy fea of parents <br />
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and this kid doesn't need a spanking he needs dicipline and he needs his mother to stop making excuses for him <br />
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if he went to time out everytime he did that stuff had his fovorite toy or activity taken away then the behavor would change

Abuse and discipline are two diffferent matters... She obviously meant that an *experienced* older parent should discipline correctly. Sometimes even a swat though, will not be enough, my friend. Sheesh

but correct disipline does not "have to" include spanking

I have a nephew who was like this, now he is very well behaved.<br />
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These kids don't need spanking they need their parents love and attention.<br />
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I think his mother should be spanked for not teaching his son a good way to communicate.<br />
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And spanking will make the situation worse, my nephew had a very good teacher in school who made his mother take better care of his son and spend more time with him and love him and pay attention to him.

Disciplining isn't always spanking. Love and attention is rewarding the bad behaviour, obviously. Oh people...