This Kid Is a Monster!
I had plans to go shopping and to dinner with a friend of mine today and had really been looking forward to it. And then she showed up with HIM!
She has the worst child in the world. He's 11-years-old and acts like a bratty 2-year-old. He threatens to hit her, actually does hit her, screams "I hate you!" at the top of his lungs in public places anytime he doesn't get his way. He has actually lain on the floor of a restaurant and kicked, cried and screamed because she wouldn't let him bring his stuffed animal to dinner! I've seen him throw food at a waitress, push smaller kids down and lie about doing it, and just be a mini-terrorist!
I cannot take this kid for even the smallest amount of time. And I LOVE kids. But he's not a child! He's an evil little troll demon! He has no mental health issues. She's had him tested and retested. The doctor's all say the same thing....he's spoiled! But she excuses his behavior. She says things like,"his father left and he needs extra love." or "It's a phase and he'll outgrow it." ARRRRGH!
I took one look at her when I saw that he was in the car today and said, "I'm sorry. I won't be going." She got upset and I didn't care. How on earth did she think we would have an enjoyable day when she will have to spend every moment telling him, "Stop. Don't. Please."? I've told her several times that I love her to death and love to spend time with her but not when he's with her. I can't deal with that type of bratty behavior from a child well over the age of such antics. I've explained to her that I don't invite him to my kids parties or other events because he's so disruptive and bullies the other kids. I've told her that his behavior will not be tolerated in my home and that if she brings him here she will be asked to leave. So, it should have been no surprise to her that I declined to go ahead with our plans. I just couldn't go...I got physically ill when I saw the kid because of the stress of just being around him.
I have kids. I have well behaved kids. They aren't perfect by a long shot. The oldest one is 18 now and still seems to think her room will magically clean itself. But when I tell her to clean it...she does and she does it without sassing me or giving any attitude.
My 4-year-old is also a good kid. She's going through a few typical problems for her age. But I don't let those slide. If she interrupts a conversation I remind her ONCE that it's rude and will not be excused a second time and I stick to my word! That's why she doesn't have temper tantrums.
And I am sooooo sick of hearing parents say that spanking a child is abuse! Abuse is when you BEAT them and inflict serious damage. A good swift swat on the butt never caused any child serious and irreversible harm! I had one friend that said, "Spanking your children causes them to fear you and no child should ever fear it's parents."
EVERY child should have a HEALTHY fear of it's parents! I don't mean that they should cower in a corner when you walk into a room, but a healthy fear of something keeps people from doing stupid things.
I know that sticking my hand into an open flame will hurt. So, I don't stick my hand into open flames! I therefore have a healthy fear of fire because my fear of the pain caused by burning my hand keeps me from doing something stupid! And a spanking from mom or dad would keep a brat from being a brat!
I just can't stand bratty kids.