I Hate the Army
I am CFBC, child free by choice for those who don't know. I was a CF supporter before I married a solider. Never knew it was an issue... And then we moved 7,000 miles from home and I began the process of trying to make friends. I was immediately ostracized. Unbenounced to me you are supposed to start reproducing around the age of 19 and continue to do so. Well being a new wife at the age of 30, I was caught off guard.
I had my bachelors degree, a career, my own real estates, I should be a good candidate for an intelligent friend right? WRONG! I am one of them "evil" "educated" "selfish career women"... Had I stepped back into 1953? And I obviously ate babies as a hobby on the weekends, because who is 30 and doesn't have a litter of children already?
I finally managed to meet a few ladies I could somewhat tolerate to be around. Surprise surprise they reproduced, and then I became the enemy. ( I did manage to make one intelligent, beautiful, open minded friend) But, as well all know in the military nothing lasts forever, and soon we are packing and headed for a new adventure. Flash forward a few years... New duty station, new set of overly judgmental wives.
It has been months and I have yet to meet anyone :( I have tried the local wife pages, all 125 of them, the FRG, I have even tried CL FFS... Evidently being CF and a military wife equates to today's generational Salem Witch Trials. I have been attacked verbally more times then I care to mention, and even physically a few times.
Not having kids is one thing. The 20 somethings can play the "we are just waiting", "he is deployed", "we are TTC"... Say you just don't want children and HOLLY **** BALLS, here comes the pitchforks and stakes.
And here I thought the Army wives were suppose to be a sisterhood. We are suppose to be supportive. We are all struggling to cope with this difficult life, so we should be supportive of one another. Oh you don't want children? Well **** you then!
Why is my lack of reproducing such a monumental attack on you? You want them/have them good for you, not for me. Did I see you with your 4+ children, and confront you as to why you have so many? NO! Why the **** are you attacking me then?!
I guess it is my fault for being honest about who I am and what my ideals are. Obviously, being an Army wife means being a fake *** *****, and conforming to the rest of the sheep. I guess if i want to make any friends I should just lie and say I have a medical condition that has rendered me infertile.
I had my bachelors degree, a career, my own real estates, I should be a good candidate for an intelligent friend right? WRONG! I am one of them "evil" "educated" "selfish career women"... Had I stepped back into 1953? And I obviously ate babies as a hobby on the weekends, because who is 30 and doesn't have a litter of children already?
I finally managed to meet a few ladies I could somewhat tolerate to be around. Surprise surprise they reproduced, and then I became the enemy. ( I did manage to make one intelligent, beautiful, open minded friend) But, as well all know in the military nothing lasts forever, and soon we are packing and headed for a new adventure. Flash forward a few years... New duty station, new set of overly judgmental wives.
It has been months and I have yet to meet anyone :( I have tried the local wife pages, all 125 of them, the FRG, I have even tried CL FFS... Evidently being CF and a military wife equates to today's generational Salem Witch Trials. I have been attacked verbally more times then I care to mention, and even physically a few times.
Not having kids is one thing. The 20 somethings can play the "we are just waiting", "he is deployed", "we are TTC"... Say you just don't want children and HOLLY **** BALLS, here comes the pitchforks and stakes.
And here I thought the Army wives were suppose to be a sisterhood. We are suppose to be supportive. We are all struggling to cope with this difficult life, so we should be supportive of one another. Oh you don't want children? Well **** you then!
Why is my lack of reproducing such a monumental attack on you? You want them/have them good for you, not for me. Did I see you with your 4+ children, and confront you as to why you have so many? NO! Why the **** are you attacking me then?!
I guess it is my fault for being honest about who I am and what my ideals are. Obviously, being an Army wife means being a fake *** *****, and conforming to the rest of the sheep. I guess if i want to make any friends I should just lie and say I have a medical condition that has rendered me infertile.
By:
Jessicalynn12
Age:
31-35
,
Female
