Seriously, Dude?!

The friend zone exists, but every guy should move out of it as soon as he realizes he's in it... so it should just be a temporary mistake.

Trust me... The friend zone does exist haha... First hand experience multiple times

thanks.. you are different

If I rate up your story can we have sex?

love this. well said, girl. :)

Yea but sometimes people love someone because they connect, and want a chance to be together forever... so sometimes it about that they can't be more than friends with someone so they think that some ********* that only wants her for sleeping with her.

The problem arises when you start the friendship wanting to genuinely be friends with the girl/guy and THEN develop feelings after the friendship has been established.
In most cases there is a disparity to the needs of both individuals, and quite often the friendship ends, or you hang with them and watch, heart sinking into desperation and sadness, as the one you love goes with someone else. They have every right to, you know it in your head, but your heart is lovesick.
If the person in love with the other is immensely emotionally strong or gets over their interest, the friendship could be saved.
I've been on both sides of the Friend Zone, the one 'Friended' and 'Friending', and it's not nice, either way, but you can't force yourself to love someone/force them to love you.
And subsequently both friendships, despite my efforts to save them, have perished.
We all have people we just don't find attractive in our lives, for whatever reason. Aside from bad hygiene, personality issues and many other reasons, it's not our fault, or theres really. That's chemistry, if you mix the wrong ingredients, you get a bomb instead of fireworks...

While I do agree with some of this, I don't agree that the friend zone doesn't exist. I don't think these guys you speak of are actually in the friend zone at all. More so, they are just being taken advantage of by snobby women. Think about it, friends don't treat friends that way. This situation can go both ways. Men using women to get sex, women using men to get whatever they want. These are stereotypes that go back to the beginning of time.

I believe the friend zone is more like when two people love each other, but can't decide what kind of love they want it to be. Friend love, or romantic love. After a while you just kind of get stuck. Every time you think you might want to be more romantic, the other person isn't interested in romance. Kind of like when you're playing phone tag with someone. heh.

I have a lot of guy friends, and I have been in this situation before. Our friendship still stands, and never once did we try to use one another. Of course, this is only my opinion. So, perhaps it only makes sense to me. : )

the friend zone does exist playa

Some men like me, think that if we stick it out, even though things are not going well, we try to stay to "fix" it....Its not blind faith but the fact when things are going well she said she loved (me)....and we believed that...If one cannot believe the person they love and who said they love us back, then who?....Eventually it "may" all end...but that's our last hammer we throw....

Friend zone! Something I don't understand, as most of my friends are girls and I haven't had sex since over a year ago the day before I broke up with my ex.

The instant we met, she wanted in my pants, and she let me miss my last bus one day just so she could get me in her bed. And well, she did get me in bed. And she had regular sex with me as a partner, and sex with others because I didn't put out often enough. :P

Why did I stay? Every time I pictured leaving her because of the things I couldn't tolerate, it crushed me to think of leaving that house, that life, her, her cats, her kids, everything.

Every time I tried to break up with her, she expertly manipulated me into staying. One day I realized just how easily she had me under her control and the anarchist in me couldn't stand being controlled so I guess I finally did it.

:P So yeah, I tried and tried to please her, and she'd still have bursts of anger over stupid things, she'd still yell at her kids every morning, she'd still lie and cheat, and I still decided to stay.

As for ending up alone eventually, no, I think she would have married me and stayed with me forever, and continued to cheat, and we could have been more or less happy like that. lol I sometimes wish I'd have just said "Yeah, I don't mind if you have sex with other people. Let me do the same and we can get married and be happy forever." However, she didn't like the idea of ME being with other people, only SHE would be allowed to in her ideal relationship.

Finally, someone that has common sense. Thank you for sharing this, hopefully more and more people will notice this.
But not all encounters are only about sex, I once practically loved this one girl, by loved, I meant I wanted to be with her, not inside of her. Well, she rejected me and showed me her true colors. Many people are cold, but hopefully a few worthy ones exist in this world.

true. :)

Just because you got crapped on, don't make a general judgment. I haven't have a lot of female friends in fact my best friends is female. I don't put her before me, nor does she put me before her. We discussed everything we spent a lot of time together in sex is never an issue. I can talk to her about anything and she can talk to me. We've been too many good times we been too many bad times without jumping in bed. There are a few nice guys out there, who do respect women I'm one of them. So just because you get screwed over, don't judge all men by one or two or three. Nice guys are out there you just got a find this.

There is all kinds out there, there is good and bad in regards
to males and females. When you meet someone who is great
you will know it, good luck to you. Yes lots of guys only want
sex and, you can only validate yourself by rejecting them. It comes
down to each individual what they want. Lots of guys treat females
like crap too. It works both ways. You can only do what is right for you
in life, and as long as you are happy that is what matters. You will
always meet people like that, some stay like that when older sadly.

So, you want everybody to leave each other alone if it's not working after a couple of time breathing the same air? To me, that sounds like a road with a whole lot of lonely.

Flip your question around. Why bother wasting your time pushing people out of your life, when you know in the end you are going to end up alone anyway?

Because, you know, you will ... and you will only have memories.

It is really hard to get the right connect with an opposite sex friend. But when you do...it can be really neat. :)

There are some guys that really do want a women as a friend and not a sex objeck

hahahah!

lol, idk where you are getting your definition of friend zone. it is most definitely a monstrosity created by the female community. men get put in the friend zone by women who aren't interested in them for a relationship at the moment, but want to keep them on the hook in case things don't go as planned or they are feeling insecure. lol if a boy didnt want to sleep with a girl, he'd stop talking to them, not some "friend-zone" BS. Least, thats how I'd handle things....who knows how the foo-foo's up in Canada handle it....xD

You are so right .. often we look to other to make us happy.. We should rely on ourselves but respect ourselves and others in the process. I hate guys who think they are entitiled and women who don't look out for other women.. Men will never look out for you ...they will love you but they are in it for themselves...

Good advice. Will you sleep with me now? :-)

Sound advice.

Good advice wear were you like a year ago lol I'm one those guys that isn't just trying to get laid and every friend that girl I've had has totally tripped out sleep my pad and me not expecting anything why ther there granted if asked I'd been down but I just have morols well I wanted to thank you I injoyed reading this

well said and so true