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Demands...

It's my family that tries to always tell me what to do. Well, my immediate family...I have a mother, step dad, and 5 older sisters and I am the youngest...and at 27 (with a child thats 7) you'd think they would back off a little and give me space...but no. Just today...my sister texts me and kinda gives me a lecture because I haven't called them or texted them or anything...It's only been a week and a half since I last seen and spoke to her! Like, seriously they make it out like I am the bad one because I am not calling them up or FBooking them or whatever. I can't even seem to have a break from my family because immediately they think something is up or that I am mad or that I am keeping to myself too much. And really, I am just tired of always travelling back and forth to go a visit them. I love my sisters but they can be so vicious sometimes...like now. I mean what they are basically saying to me is this: you shouldn't be at home during your reading week, you should be over here visiting and you should call us, because God forbid we call you. I mean whatever, they want to be like that then thats not my concern. I mean I have been going back and forth from my side of the city to theirs visiting since Christmas...like every weekend or every other weekend. And now that I just want to stay in at my place its bad for me...really? I pay alot of money for this apartment and why the hell shouldn't I stay home? I am so sick and tired of being treated like this from my family. If I do something, anything that seems different they immediately jump to conclusions before knowing the full truth. I mean I have nothing to hide..I don't drink or do drugs or gamble up my money...no I stay home and try to not spend money. I have been on tight budget and I need to be able to save up my money to make it last until my next payday. It's like as if my own choices don't matter. And I am tired of letting my family just treat me like a doormat. And, once I decide to take my stand and say enough is enough, I can make my own choices...watch it be the end of the world. Really, I bet everyone will get mad and try to make it seem like I am evil or something. Is this wrong for me to do? i think not, but really I know if I tell them that I can live my life on my own terms, they are going to get mad and think of the worst and make this mole hill into a mountain....because that is what happens every time I decide to speak up for myself. Really, its no concern to them about my choices...I love them and I love to visit, but allow me my personal space. Ugh, its irrating and most of all its painful; I mean I feel as though I have done something wrong, when I know I haven't. I feel like my sisters are just wanting to talk about something so their coming up with these ideas about whats wrong with me. I am just tired of this BS, I so can't wait until I have my education finsihed so I can move far away.
earthwindfirewater earthwindfirewater 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 24, 2012

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There is nothing wrong with wanting your own space.. Tell your family you can only afford to visit once a month or make an arrangement to meet uo with them now and again.. You sound to me like you are just growing up and becoming more independant.. Remember though it can be nice to have your family around sometime.. Your sisters and you will grow up and appreciate one another so be patient, as it just sounds to me like abit of sibling rivalry x best of luck to you :-)