Hate Mornings Can't Wake Up!

I'm 47 and since I was a teenager, I've had extreme difficulty waking up and getting out of bed in the mornings.

If I"m not on any kind of forced schedule, I sleep on average, till about 11am. I'm also a Mother and this gets in the way of functioning more effectively as a parent. I wait till the last minute to get up and get my first grader off on the bus then it's back to bed for about an hour or more.  I tried to go to a networking meeting that was at 10am in the mornings. Guess what? I couldn't get up and make it to even THOSE!

This weekend, my son's cub scout den is going out at 9am in the morning. I'm dreading it!

My brain seems to be in a very deep sleep during the earlier morning hours and it's such a fight to wake up, no matter what time I go to bed. I just wanted to find others like myself. I don't know anyone like me. I might as well seek out others like myself so I can stop hating myself for not being able to wake up in the mornings.

ldinlove ldinlove
46-50, F
3 Responses Mar 11, 2010

Me too...I am lying here pressing the snooze button wishing I could just have another hour! It has not got easier as I have got older. Ten minutes I will have 10 minutes more......

Hello, I'm a 46 year old male and I have always been the same way. Years ago I had a job that forced me to start at 4am. Though I liked the work, physically I felt awful over time.<br />
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Luckily I've found and developed skillsets that employers want and I've been able to set my own hours. I get to work anywhere from 9:30 to noon and will work as late as needed. Jobs that demand set hours I often quit within a short period. Usually I found that after I got known by my mangers, they allowed me leeway on hours. I'd say" I'll be there at that time, but I won't be awake and functional until 11am, so if you want to pay a zombie..."<br />
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I think it's genetic as my memories of my mothers schedule was the same, she would usher us off to school and go back to bed, if she woke at all. <br />
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In school I was known for not being present on Mondays and Fridays, but back then you could get away with it if you made the grades.<br />
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I don't sleep well if I know an alarm, is set, so I don't. Some people are just this way

Hi there.<br />
An average adult should get 8 hours of sleep, but can function well on just 7. If you are getting that much sleep and its mostly uninterrupted, you are probably suffering from depression due to low self-esteem. <br />
I am saying this because of your last statement, "...I can stop hating myself for not being able to wake up in the mornings. " There is no reason to EVER hate yourself. Not getting up does not make you any less of a person than anyone else in the world. <br />
I would recommend talking to a psychologist or counselor about your problem, or if that's not an option, reading the following book:<br />
'Waking up Just in Time: A Therapist Shows How to use the Twelve Steps Approach to Life's Ups and Downs' by Abraham J. Twerski, M.D.<br />
Be well and<br />
Happiness Always!