Addicted to ****

My husband is addicted to ****, he also has over 30 **** dvds . he charged over 1,000 dollars of **** on the cable bill.

Everytime i open the bedroom door he is watching it,and the tries to to turn it off. He trys to deny everything and lies constantly.

 

If i find a job soon,i am leaving him

Luckie Luckie
41-45, F
3 Responses Feb 10, 2007

Surfsup, I disagree. This "Man" is obviously a selfish addicted jerk who is also robbing his family of money for his own sick stroking. How respectable can you get? These compulsive selfish pigs simply sicken me. How bout' a little self control? YUKK!! Just YUKK!!!

If i were to take a guess i would bet that 98.9% of dudes look at ****. so with that in mind.... tossing the dude out to trade him in for another that does the same thing doesn't make much sense.<br />
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Is is a good man other than this? Is he a good father? Is this his only issue? Do you talk about the pooorrn at all? Do you ask him what it is that he gets from it that he can't get from you? I'm not making this about you... women really DONT GET IT!!! I too don't get it. My husband looks at it alot too. I'm trying to understand exactly what it is that they get.<br />
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1st- it's always open, 24/7 all the time any time... always ready for sexxx anytime... hard to compete with. expecially if you have kids, work or hey... any kind of life.<br />
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2nd-it is easily approachable right.... just turn the machine on.<br />
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I get it... things you might not really want to bring up with the wife... ie. my husband's really into wrestling women... don't get it. some reason athletic women wrestling is his thing... hard for me to understand... hard for me to express for him... not even sure i could if i wanted to. his thing... his right... fine... <br />
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BUT... it sounds like you have way more of a problem here since he's spending FAMILY money on the pursuit of his pooorrn. talking to... and god knows what else. In my personal opionion this is way over the line. This is hurting your finiancial outlook as a couple/family and certainly out of line, even if your a stay at home mom and he's earning all the $.<br />
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Honestly there is so much free **** not sure what's up with the guy. Pictures and video must not be enough... the talking is what he must be doing or live websites? is that what they pay for? or real ssseexx? gezzz lets hope he's not going there. you need to make sure that he's at least looking at legal aged pooorrn. has he seen the 20/20 round up the kiddy pornnn guys. That kind of arrest would totally ruin both of your lives.<br />
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I'm getting way worked up.... <br />
sorry about your whole ordeal. When $$$$ is being spent on the endeavor of ****, doing it...is likely next if it hasn't happened already. not much of a line between paying for **** and paying for a prostute is there?<br />
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One thing as a women I know we are not comfortable with and that is CONFORNTATION. You need to TALK to him. Get it all out on the table. YOu need to tell him how it makes you feel and ask him what it is that he's getting from it that he can't come to you about. If you can't work past it... or with it... with some kind of agreement than you really don't have much of a choice. just know.... it's more likely that MOST men are viewing **** to some extent in one way or another. If he's worth keeping you MUST CONFRONT it for your own sanity. If you have kids you owe it to them to at least try to work through it.<br />
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Best wishes... go TALK.... get counseling if you think it will help. Just make sure that whatever you do he's completely willing to be a part of it. Forced therapy for a problem that HE can't admit to will be useless.<br />
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Huggs... best wishes...

i cant believe your husband, dont put up with it leave him, there are men out there that are not like that. my man would never do that. i dont see y men like that have wives, theisr odviously not happy! so get out of there girl...