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Infuriating!!!!!

i have a friend who i love dearlybut constantly feels it neccasary to patronise and belittle me in front of others to the point where she actually apologises for me!!!!!!its knocking my confidence,i dont have many friends so i tend to cling to her!!!!
melliebee melliebee 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 20, 2008

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She is not your friend .she is feeding on your confidence .. Slowly and little by little .. Like a disease . Leave her and you will be happier even if that means being alone .

Hi there, your story makes me v angry on your behalf.. You need to talk to this so called friend and tell her to stop doing what she is doing.. If she doesn't you need to get out of the relationship fast, that is not friendship.. You will meet new people, so don't settle for second best, as this is damaging you.. It may be that your friend has some insecurities and that is why she feels the need to put you down, however you should not allow it to continue just because she is your only companion at present.. I also suggest you buy yourself a book on self confidence, Gail Lindenfield is a good author and the are many others out there.. Pretend that you have got confidence, how would that person behave, imagine? Would they put up with things, or move on and find new friends .. My thoughts are with you :-) take care of yourself x

for example if out and about ive struck up a conversation with a complete stranger and my "friend"says sorry about her shel talk to anyone just ignore her!!!!

Apologises for what reason and to whom?