Can I Have Her?Overheard today in a supermarket:
Parents with a child of possibly two years old. Both parents were doing the shopping and moved some distance away from the trolley in search of different things. The child made a noise, wanting them to come back and then threw her dummy on the floor. Mother ( retrieving dummy and sticking it in the little girls mouth) "You are a horrible child." Father agreeing, said "Monster." Both put some items in the trolley and moved off. The mother commenting as they went: "Trouble, nothing but trouble." It was the harsh, unloving tone of voice that got to me, as much as the words.
This made me so angry. I wanted to go and offer to take the child home with me.
Maybe they really didnt want the child. Perhaps it was an unplanned baby. Or a difficult baby, that cried for hours. There are all sorts of reasons why parents find it tough. But you cant just give it away. Can you? Rehoming a child? Even if that was what you secretly wanted to do. Of course they cant admit that, its unatural, unnacceptable. What would people say? They would be appalled. So they are stuck with it.
Unless or until, someone who knows them looks at the way they are treating their child, realises the damage she is suffering and takes the step of calling social services. The sooner the better as far as I am concerned.