I Believe My Temper Is the Reason My Fiance Cheated...

I blow up over the slightest thing.  He has money problems - I yell and holler that he's irresponsible and doesn't pay attention to the important things.  Or I'll get mad because we were joking around teasing and I feel like he went too far and hurt my feelings.  I know he didn't do it deliberately, but I get pissed and don't talk to him.  I'm trying hard to change the way I react because I don't want to lose him for good.  I know that if I were more loving and took better care of our relationship, he would never have cheated on me.  He only slept with her 4 times in the 4 months they were having an affair... he spent most of the time talking to her and just spending time with someone who was not such a nagging b*tch.  I want so much to change but I'm scared that it's impossible.
Chanteuse1984 Chanteuse1984
26-30, F
1 Response Jun 6, 2007

Short fuse eh? There's a very old-fiashined, possibly clichéed method, which is to count to ten before apeaking when you are angry. I find it works. But you know, there is a such a thing as an anger-management problem, and you can seek help for it. If it's really causing you problems, might be worth the money.