I Just Lose It

I am one of those people with a temper that has a long fuse but a huge bomb.  It takes forever to set me off but when you do, BOOM... it's terrible.  I don't mean to be but I have an unhealthy habit of storing things up until I explode.  And since I have an extremely high threshold for irritance and things of that nature it seems that I'm bitter or I harbor grudges.  That's not the case.  When the bomb goes off it just reminds me of all the things that I've been holding inside and forgetting bother me because I don't feel like they're that important at the time.  But after awhile when things don't resolve themselves (as I naively keep believing that they will), I do get resentful.  I don't mean to be this way but when I bring things up when they are bothering me people tell me that I'm "Nit-picking" or "irritable".  I just can't seem to find a way to make my anger acceptable!!

theophania theophania
22-25, F
1 Response Jan 23, 2007

Playing video games that get you angry are good. A punching bag maybe. I was like you. I turned to sports and video games. Stay away from people when playing games though. You start swearing like crazy when things don't go your way. But it may build acceptance. Sports is a great way to learn that you can't have your way. I play soccer so you know how dumb the calls can be. Just focus your anger on an ob<x>ject and away from people. If you are having an argument, try to solve it calmly then hit that punching bag. If you can't, let them know you are about to burst and need to let off steam before you can think and settle this maturely and rationally. Even if it makes you seem like a girl. They will appreciate that you are trying. (Women I mean)