Feel TrappedI have been with R for almost 10 years now. He has always been moody (getting downright mean at times). I recently started seeing a therapist so I could learn ways to deal with him. I don't want a divorce, although I am getting more and more tempted.
The therapist, once I described R's actions/words, said he sounds bi-polar - I said I thought that meant he would have manic-y UPs as well as downs and she said that is not necessarily the case with all bi-polars. It could be, when he is "normal" (aka, not mean/aggressive), that is his "up".
He is paranoid about the neighbors (believes they are all talking about him and watching his every move), has no friends, has no job (he works on our house as it was a foreclosure and we have been fixing it up). He is not physically abusive. He says we "need to be on the same page" when it comes to the neighbors (I don't even talk to the neighbors anymore cuz I don't want to have to deal with an interrogation from him on what was said). I try using basic old logic but that fails.
I am not sure what to expect from this forum - I guess the feeling that I'm not alone, and maybe some helpful advice.