I'm Tired Of Always Argue

I have been dating this guys for over 2 years and we just moved in together this past summer....ever since we moved we argue all the time over smallest things. We got along better when we were living separately. I really love him and I think he does too but what's with all these fights. We both have 2 kids of our own the minutes I mention something that his kids did or didn't do he always freaks out on me. He keeps on telling me we need to communicate but every time I try we fight....and if I just stop talking then he freaks again....what is going on with us? Should we split and go our desperate ways?
bestmom05 bestmom05
31-35, F
1 Response Nov 30, 2012

A relationship will change when you move in with each other, that's a given. Because you go from two separate lives, to one basically. I think you'll be okay, but you really need to pick your battles here.

For instance, when you tell him his kids did something wrong, he probably feels attacked. I agree that you need to communicate, but there's a right way to do it, and a wrong way. You're a mixed family as long as you live together, so you need to work together on these things. When the kids do something wrong, don't just tell him "Hey, your kids are out of hand" try to handle the situation if he isn't home, and later sit down and tell him what happened. Tell him you took care of it this time, but you BOTH need to sit the kids down and talk (depending on how old the kids are). It will take time for you to work out all the bugs in the living together situation, but it can be done. You just have to take it one step at a time. Good luck.