My Soldier May Be Leaving More Than The Country..I've been dating my soldier for 5 years on and off..he will be facing his second tour in December this year, and I'm scared he may be trying to call it quits on our relationship.
I met my boyfriend over 5 years ago, and from the beginning I knew he would be going into the Army. I was only 16 when he left, but decided to give distance a try. Looking back now, I realize I was a little immature for the strain distance can have on a relationship. We broke it off soon after he got out of basic, but remained friends throughout and during his first tour in 2009. When he got back in 2010, we decided to give things another shot, and have been together ever since. We've talked about marriage someday, but agreed we're both a little too young for that right now - he's 22 and I'm 20.
For the past four weeks he's been training for deployment and hasn't been able to communicate at all. We had our first conversation yesterday in weeks, and it became quickly aware that something had changed. He showed no emotion in texts or calls, and ended up telling me that he is questioning his strength in the relationship, and isn't sure if he can handle a relationship on top of stresses he has with his job..
I've heard hundreds of stories about the significant other of a soldier saying they aren't strong enough, but never heard the soldier questioning his own strength.
I was wondering if anyone has been through this, and if there's anything I can tell him to try and comfort him during this. He's trying to figure out if he can handle a relationship during his deployment, and has been putting a lot of guilt on himself because he can't be here for me. Is there anything I can do/say to reassure him that I'm fine? Anything that I can do period??
Thanks for reading! :)
andreagene 18-21, F 3 Responses 0 Aug 29, 2011