He Isn't My Boyfriend But...

He is my husband. (I couldn't find a group for husbands going to Afghanistan lol) Anyway, My husband is a Marine and he deploys in May, My best friend in the whole world since I was 12 is also deploying with the airforce in may to afghanistan. If any of you ladies want to talk I'm here!

MrsLucas MrsLucas
22-25, F
4 Responses Mar 5, 2010

Well, to be honest, I don't think it is an easy thing for anyone to deal with and I think it is harder if you are married to or dating a person that is being deployed. The best advice I can give you is to STOP watching the news, the don't accurately report what is going on over there anyway and you have know way of knowing if your man is there or not so, there is no sense in getting yourself all worked up over it. Second, don't read more into the letter than what they write. Before he leaves talk to him about how often you guys want to get letters from each other and what you want the letters to be about. For instance, my husband and I have agreed to write at least a letter a week and he wants to know about everyday life (i.e. how the dogs doing, what we did at church that week, how work and school are going, etc) and I want to know about what he is reading in the bible and the funny stuff that is going on, not the crazy scary stuff they are doing. Also, keep busy, don't let your mind stay stuck on the fact that he is gone. Read a good book, sleep in his shirt, keep a journal and stay busy. If you want to tell him about something or you are upset and wish you could talk to him, write a letter. If it is a sad letter and might make him think that you aren't okay without him then don't mail it. Save it and let him read it when he gets home.<br />
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I know it seems like a long time but in the grand scheme of life 6 months is nothing. You will be fine and so will he. Keep him in your prayers, keep your chin up and he will be home before you know it!

Heyy! I thought i would ask for some advice if it's okay, as i can relate to your story, Im in a bit of a situation and not to sure on how to deal with it, So i have been going with my boyfriend 6 months (not long i know) but i also went to school with him since i was 13, My best friend has recently just came back from Afghan and i found it very hard to cope with him over their, i was extremley worried about him always reading more into his letters than he actually ment! Always watching the news etc. When he came back he showed me parts of his diary, which made it harder i guess? My boyfriend is due to leave for Afghan is september but i am here for him, && pretend to put a brave face on and support him.. As i have helped him through alot with army life, but im never really to sure how to deal with these things myself.. I act fine with it until i am by myself, so just wondering really have you any tips how i could personally come to facts that he has to go for 6 months and how not worry so much?<br />
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I wish you and your husband all the best && care possible x

My name is Allie and my husband is Matt. I am so proud of my marine and I wear his dog tags along with a tag the has a verse from Joshua on it everyday. <br />
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Thank you so much for your service to our country and thank you for your prayers!

Well I'm not a lady, but I spent 4 years in the Marine Corps, and spent 13 months in Hell in Viet Nam, and I didn't believe in God at that time, but now wished I had, and If you share his name, my wife and I will keep him in prayer, and you as well. Be proud that his is a Marine, as they say, once a Marine, always a Marine, after over 45 years, I still proudly wear my dog tags daily.<br />
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May our God Bless you both.