Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 5 years and we have a daughter together. He is so wonderful because he claims my son as his own and he adores his daughter and my son so much. Our relationship was very stressful and hard at times but we have gotten throught our problems together. He and I seperated (not broke up) in march because I wasn't happy with the things he was doin and how he was treating me. But every month since he managed to visit us (me and the kids) for a couple days and go back to where he was staying. Just last month July. I was planning on going to visit him for a couple of weeks so we could discuss and work on our relationship. Just a few days before I was getting ready to visit him, his mom told me that he had gotten arrested and was in jail. At first I didn't believe it, but when he actually called me a week later from the county jail, reality finally sunk it. I couldn't believe he was there, i still can't believe he's there. I miss having him call me 5 times a day. I miss hearing him tellin me he loves me every day. Now I only get to talk to him for 15min once a week. It's so hard because I think we were both taking our relationship for granted. But as they say things happen for a reason. Maybe God was tryin to tell the both of us that we need to take care of our selves before we can take care of each other. Its hard because our kids don't know whats going on. They are only 3 and 7. His birthday was on the 28th of July and my son said "I wanna call daddy and tell him happy birthday." I had to tell him that daddy was very busy and i would tell him when he calls. What makes it worse is that he may have to be in jail for a year and it would be so hard for us to get used to that. I hope that he doesnt have to be there for that long. Whenever he gets out, we definetly plan on workin on gettin our relationship back together. Its hard just thinkin about him sitting in a jail cell in a orange jumpsuit, surrounded by men all day. You never think it could happen to you. I just don't know of any other woman around me that are going through the same thing as me. I would love to have feedback and maybe encouragement.