Ex Just Had A Baby

My boyfriend's ex just had a baby. We started dating in November, literally a week after it became "official" she called and told him that she was 19 weeks pregnant and that it's his. We need to contact her to get a paternity test done. If it is his, he wants full custody. I don't want to raise another woman's baby (I'm already helping to raise my brother's two kids, whose mother is out of the picture) but I really really love him and want to be with him. He keeps telling me that the baby won't change anything between us, if it's even his, but I'm afraid that I'm going to lose him. Not to the ex, but to my inability to cope with another baby. I want to be with him so bad, but I'm afraid that I won't be able to handle raising her child. I keep trying to rationalize reasons that it might not be his, but it's really not helping any. She got pregnant with him when they were still dating, but she miscarried in the first month. I'm just hoping like crazy that it's not his. I don't want this woman to have his baby.
sonoma22 sonoma22
18-21, F
1 Response May 7, 2011

It is so hard to deal with that yes, but look at this way that it be a postive thoughts in your head right now and dont let any negativity come to you. Get rid of it okay and think about the wonderful feeling of helping raising another child because that is out of love that you would want to do. what if the mother cant take care of it. what if she has some issues that she cant be able to provide for and at least the baby will be connected to the biological father. There are so many children that needs a home and a loving and warm home and I would love to adopt one if the lord is permitting you know. Just have to take one day at a time and see how things are going. I would feel the same way to hope that the child is not his for the reasons the mother may be trying to put on your boyfriend. It is okay to be afriad but be strong and pray about it. I am not very religious but when something do trouble me I just talk to god about it and leave to him to take care of things.