My Boyfriend Has Gambling Addiction And I Dont Know What To DoI have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years and at the beginning we had great relationship but roughly 3 years ago he came to me and said that before he met me, he had a big problems with betting on horses and promised me that he sort it out eveyrything and is ok. But last year I went through his bank statement as I didnt really trust him and found out that he spent thousands and thousands on horses again. We had a big argument about it and I warned him that if he doesnt stop I will leave him, he again promised and that time I really believed him.
I come from Czech and its been quite hard for me to get a proper job, but my boyfriend helped me to become a dental nurse and this year I have been accepted for course of dental hygienist in London and that happened again with great help of my boyfriend. After when I found out about my success, he came to me and said we can afford the mortgage if I help with little amount. I asked him where he got the money and he said he had one great win but never said exactly how much. I got very excited about our future together and was planning buying furniture etc. After our holiday in Sept we went to apply for our mortgage and everything seemed ok. But yesterday I went home for my lunch break and found a big envelope and could not see the name so I opened it and there was an application for loan from the bank for 17000 pounds so I called my boyfriend with huge confusion and thats when he told me on the phone that he lost all his deposit of 15000pounds, even before we both signed the final documents for the mortgage. He was still hoping he will win some money back but no luck.
Everything is ruined, I dont know what to do now, to leave him or stay and help him. He still think that we can go for the mortgage with that loan but I dont trust him. Even when he yesterday addmitted that he has the problem and will do something about it. It is such huge shock for me because we were planning family and children together.
Please can anyone help me???
kasinda 26-30 5 Responses 0 Nov 11, 2011