My Boyfriend Has A Gambling Problem

My boyfriend of ten years has a gambling problem playing the machines at the casino and bars. It started about 5 years ago and we have been living together for over 6 years and are renting to own a house from my parents. He has a good job and makes decent money and i also have a job as well. But he gambles everytime he gets paid, he comes home late after work. He leaves in the middle of the night and he doesnt have a car so he takes mine. He has taken my bank card a few times and my visa but that has stopped since i changed the pin numbers. I have tried helping him by taking his bank card and cha ging the pin but it never seems to work. Im trying to get a head in life but i cant seem to cause everytime we start to do good he goes and gambles the extra money away. He owes over 40,000 in debt not including the house. I have never wrote on one of these pages before, so im not sure if this really makes since but i just want any advice from someone that has gone thru this and if there is anyway i can help him. The reason im looking for information now is because he just gambled again all his money tonight and now were screwed again. He is a really good guy and i want to stay with him but i cant with this problem We want to get married and have kids but i just dont see it happening with this gambling problem.
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1 Response May 13, 2012

there is no future with someone who has a gambling problem. you are lucky that you found out before you got married. He may be a good guy but he is not going to change his ways and will continue to gamble behind your back until you lose it all... Leave him while you still can..