Give Up?I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years. He moved in with me until we got in a huge fight about his gambling. He moved out and shortly later we worked some issues out and thought it was pointless to pay rent when he could be helping me. He moved back in and things are no better. He filed Bankrupt a few years ago. I have loaned him money to get back on his feet but no more since about a year ago. He still owes about $3000. and pays it to me monthly. He is still lying and going gambling. He is about 3 months behind on his bankruptcy. I pay all the bills. He helps some around the house. He tries to compare his gambling to my drinking. I do drink and on occasions I may drink a little much but I do not lie to him nor do this behind his back. I enjoy life and I can usually tell with his different moods that he is thinking about gambling. I could not count how many times he has lied about going. I finally got him to tell me but I know I do not know all the times. Now, he says he will never go again and it just is no fun anymore but I do have a hard time believing him. He understands why I would not believe him but as I have told him…. he was just feeling down at the time of his loss and when he starts feeling better he will go again. I have two children. I own my home and have no problems greatly with my finances but I do live pay check to pay check! I really want him to stop as it is not fair to me nor my children. He says he isn’t hurting anyone. I have told him he lives in my home and it does in fact affect everyone. He tells me not to worry about it and that he has been in the mess before and he can get out of it again. I normally do not act so controlling but when he is living with me and does not share any of the expenses with me that it is my business. Not sure how much more I can take?? I know he feels bad and I have caught him a time of two belittling me. I feel he does this to make himself feel better.
ppa2 41-45, F 2 Responses 1 Jun 1, 2012