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i dont even know if people actually read what is posted, i wish someone out there would respond, i am going thru alot of pain, its going on 4 months since my breakup, there is no way we will ever get back together, it ended in disaster, now she wont talk to me at all, ive tried everything but i hear nothing, i miss her so much my heart is really shattered, im so broken because i realized too late that i really loved her, why couldnt it have ended in better terms why did she have to break my heart to pieces, now i dont know how to move on or if i even want to, how do i get up and move on, i will try anything but please dont give rude comments, dont kick me when im down, help me up, at least try
latinlaydey latinlaydey 46-50, F 59 Responses Dec 22, 2012

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so ,so sorry for you...

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Hy hy sweety,I'm hear!

I wan you to know that yes there people out there that read your heartbreak news and I know you feel very sad about this and feel like you where kicked in the gut, there is nothing I can say truly that will make it feel better but only thing is that because of this heartbreak this will leave you open for the true love that now has a opportunity to walk into your life, yes it is going to be hard but do believe you will love again🌹

I know how you feel...I'm in the same position!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am on the other side. My bf of 6 years and I have broken up multiple times. Usually due to his substance abuse or mental health issues or is lack of trust in me. I've relented and have taken him back several times, but due to the emotional damage he has inflicted on me I no longer want to work it out. Do I love him YES. He is giving the same promises, I never hurt you again, I realize what I'm losing, you are my one true love on so on. I just can't do it any more. He wants to know how I can just shut him out and break his heart. I want to know why he didn't realize what a good thing he had each and every time I took him back?

I Hear you !! I just broke up also!! Found out thst she was sleeping with the guy living below me! So I moved out ! My heart is broken 💔 but it will be better in the long one! There are a lit of good women out there for you!!!

I'm so sorry. You need to get yourself out of this hole. Make time for friends, therapy, whatever it takes to begin to heal. Since your sure it's over, don't live your life in misery.

Time is all that works. I know. It has been more than a year for me and the pain is there. Have faith and focus on you

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Speak to me if you need to, I'll help. Iv been through a lot too xx

It does hurt and i know what you're going through me and my girlfriend loved were together for 4 years and we loved each other, but we broke up because we wanted different thing, but was still so painful. A week later she started seeing a guy from her work, i miss her so much and my thoughts on what i want from life have changed a lot, if only we had waited. But life is full of shoulda, coulda, woulda's and we can go back in time. Its been 3 years since we broke up and she is still always on my mind. When we broke up i also lost contact with all my friends and my family live miles away and i see them maybe once a year. So have just concentrated on work but i feel so alone and no where to go, all i can think is that im always going to be alone. Before i was an outgoing and confident person, a break up can truly change you. All i can hope is that one day i will wake up and be able to move on and that it wont be too late. My advice for anyone else going through a break up, try and move on, keep going, take up new hobbies, try new things and meet new people. Maybe one day i'll listen to my own advice.

If you find the answer tell me

Everyone has read ur experience !!
It's even declared experience of the day!

Keep trying when she left me I was.very sad I thought I will never see her again u wil no believe after 20 years we met n we married if u really love her then keep faith in god he listen every thing that comes from deep of ur heart

you are not alone and its not end of life. just get up,raise up your head and go on with your life. start a new page. but remember to call on God to guide you with right person for you. remove everything concerning her in your phone or diary. but you are not enemies though you are separated.

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your realization came after your sepration, similarly she would have understood her feelings much before but may be found you ignorant on the same and wouldn't have a courage to come forward and thought of taking a pain now than later....so if you confess your love and made her understand things will be fine for you.

Best of Luck....go and get your lady.

Chetnya

i am not good at opening up except coffee

Hugs Sweetie;
I can tell you are feeling vulnerable and confused at the moment. I am not going to tell you that you should buck up, or suck it up...or whatever stupid comment goes for bad advise these days. None of us need to hear it and certainly not at a point in our lives when it simply isn't possible to shrug it off or when the experience is too central to our being. Losing someone is a bitter experience-it is similar to the process of going through the death of a person you are close too. That you still find it painful at times is normal. I wish I could say that there is some magic pill that would make it go away, but, I would be lying to you. At the same time I can tell you-absolutely, unequivocally, and without any doubt-it will ease. Not only do you have to experience the full range of feelings you also have to learn how to push through those feelings. Certainly, others will tell you that you should keep busy, get out, focus on other interests or find a hobby. They are correct-in part. None of these will totally eliminate the pain, but, they can get us out of the bad habit we have of trying to pick all of the experience apart looking for gold. Since it has been four months since the break up I suggest you ask yourself if it might not be a good idea to talk to your doctor, or a friend and tell them you have been having difficulty with the breakup... I would say this is critical if you are not sleeping well, gaining or losing weight, losing interest in things that you usually enjoy or having difficulty concentrating. A bad breakup can cause a period of depression because it puts an extra stress on our system-producing lots of cortisol and other stress hormones, disrupting our sleep and impacting us physically as well as emotionally. It seems likely this might be a part of the problem which will certainly delay your begining to feel yourself again. I would also point out that this time of year is poison when it comes to being alone or lonely and winter itself can make us feel the blahs even when everything is going well. I hope this helps you a bit and wish I could do more. I can promise that it will get better-you just have to let it...

Thank you, im gonna try n get into a ceramic class, keep busy til i can feel again

I have been braken hearted many times and it does feel like the end of the world for awhile, but if you keep going the old saying that it gets easier with time is true in most cases. If you don't start to feel better try talking to a friend. Don't dwell on it, try to do things that get your mind off from it.

I've never been in a relarionship but i think this might help: tell her that you made a mistake and want to appologize. Maybe she feels the same way but maybe she's hurting just as bad and just wants to be left alone. Either way at she will know hownyou feel.

hi there, i am really sorry you are going through so much pain. I was there a year ago.... i was soooo deeply in love. I cried everyday, i lost 20lbs, i woke up in the middle of the night crying sometimes too.... All i can say is just allow yourself to grieve. allow yourself to be sad.... I think you mentioned it was 4 months ago, so it's still pretty fresh.... just sit with the pain and allow yourself to be heartbroken. Cry, scream, and do it over and over. It is perfectly safe, normal, and ok to be where you are emotionally. Like others in the replies, I too can tell you that time does heal and you will be ok again, but you probably can't fathom that considering where you are right now emotionally. So my best advice is to just be in pain, allow yourself to really feel your feelings. Once you get to that place where the feelings begin to feel redundant or if you feel like you are "wallowing in your pain", then start taking steps to let go. You don't have to let go today, just know that it is something you will one day have to do, (and I don't mean to scare you with this) but otherwise holding onto the love will poison you. Imagine when a woman miscarries and the baby unfortunately passes in her belly. The woman will naturally pass the baby on her own, or doctors will have to go in and remove the child, if this doesn't occur, the passed child will decay inside of her and possibly kill her. Love in the heart is much the same way. It is so hard when we lose, and I am sorry you lost someone you love.... There are no words..... And like I said, 4 months is still fresh, so you have plenty of time to just be in your pain. But just know, that one day you will have to let go. You have to let go so you can free yourself, and you can also free her. There were things for you to learn, and there were things for her to learn. You came together for the time you were meant to come together, and you left when it was time too. She may be the greatest love of your life.... I don't know. But even if she was, there is still love for you in the world, it will just be different, but special in its own way.... And who knows, your greatest love, maybe has yet to come? Perhaps her role was only to prepare you?? Only God knows what your journey has in store for you.... So be in pain, really allow yourself to just cry, and be heartbroken... now is the time. But just know, that one day (and you'll know when it is time), you will have to let go.... Then in time, you can keep your heart open and another butterfly will land on it. Sorry for your pain baby, I was there a year ago.... and I promise you in a year the wounds wont hurt so bad. Much love to you....

well done, loved the reply

thank you so much for ur kind words, i know its gonna hurt awhile longer but i will try n stay busy so i can proccess these feelings n open my heart again

awwwww sweetie I feel so sorry for you!!!

well i ll just suggest you a wonderful site that helped me alot with breaking up with someone i really loved that much ! , look for article called 'how to get over someone in few days' iin this site 2knowmyself.com :) and if u couldnt find it , tell me , hope it will be useful

Thank you i just got bak on again, i will check it out

Sometimes having a horrible breakup that removes someone from your life is the only way to get over them. After all, being with her as a friend is not the same as being with her as a lover. Plus if you are around her all the time. You will have false hope of getting her back and you will not be able to go forth and find new love.

I was in the same boat to back in the late 80s we had been together for 14 years I came home one night and she had just gone I was a wreck I still love the girl from back then. If its any consolation I am Married now with 2 great kids the hurt gets less as the years go by but you never forget.
Good Luck my Friend.

Do you ever try Jesus? He wouldn't let you down, he will open his arms and embrace you. Don't suffer for other human being....seek the eternal love of God nothing else can compare..belive me. Be you own self, your own person. You are the only one to turn around this situation. I can see that you are talking from the flesh and desires....Seek you soul, your spirit...seek God...in God love we do not need nobody.

Wow, I was in that same boat a few years ago, I said exactly the same words, I loved that person so dam much, and found out he never wanted to be with me, It put me off guys all together, I was afraid to love again so I had that attitude of "stuff them all!". It hurt a lot for days, I cried a lot, I cried when I tried to have fun and get on with life, I cried to my friends and whilst their encouraging words made me feel that bit better, I still felt so dam hollow! but I listen to something that I knew was going to help me over time, it was the inner soul whispering to me, it said to "time will heal you and you will feel better, you just need to trust it, this life is here to teach you lessons, and without Hurt, you cannot experience appreciation". Listen to your inner soul, it will guide you. This person left you because you to point you to the real soulmate you will have that you cannot see right now. Since that painful event, I've met the most amazing man in my life, the one who truly loves you will give you tears of joy, not unhappiness. I look back at my ex and thank god he left me so that I can be with the man who was suppose to be with me. Trust me, you will thank her for doing this even though you may not believe it right now. You must let her go of her as she has let go of you. You won't move forward until you accept that it's over. You don't deserve to waste anymore goodness of yourself on her anymore, you need to give yourself more credit. Don't you think you deserve someone who will love you back just as much? You'll be all right buddy, time will be your friend and healer!

Sorry about the grammar, I'm
Using my iPhone and the auto correct is annoying!

And don't fall in love with how it used to be, knock that fantasy out of your mind and truly see it as it is, that she isn't in the scene anymore. The moment you accept this, the quicker you can begin to heal. You are a good person who deserves a good partner, don't settle for any less!!!!

I know how you my heart has been broken also.We can't change how someone else feels.We can only change ourselves.I take one day at a time and pray everyday for god to make me stronger.I will pray for you too.

Thank you for responding, for ur kind words, its still fresh, im still in alot of pain

Latinlaydey, I am so sorry that you are hurting so badly! I dont get on here much the last few days and I would really like to. I am not able to really responde the way I would to this posting but for now I will just send you my prayers and to say that I hope you keep moving on and I know it is hard but there are people out there that do care. I dont know the whole story only what you have said in this post. Time will heal your broken heart it may not seem like it right now but it will. God bless you and keep you safe!

I understand the above posting is fake. Sorry! but I feel so!!

I know how you are feeling, my girlfriend broke up with me yesterday, phoned me and said she didn't want to be in the relationship anymore. i am so damn sad, been crying all night, and started drinking at 6am this morning :(
Break up's are so hard when you love someone *hugs*

i hope ur doing better, im not it still hurts but im here, sometimes dont want to be, hang in there, we deserve happiness too

I can see the pain you are going through...Keep faith in yourself and love... make yourself busy and do some workouts.. go to shopping, reading books try something new in Kitchen...

It's not easy and can't even say that time will heal. I got separated after 10 years because she cheated on me. 2 years on today I still miss her and wish to get over and move on with my life. Pain is still there . Good luck.

The place your in is not a place most have not been in before. It is so hard to get through such a heart breaking time,but it can be done. My prayers and hopes go out to you, good luck.

I can feel your pain ....I guess its hard to try and offer help with out more info...what did you do to make her hate you?
Im sorry your hurting ...it sucks but I guarantee -----she hurt too.
take care of you and learn how to love self first.

Well to be very frank ... give her some time to rethink and analyze the situation.... and for your try to be busy in day to day work ... if she really loves you she will come to you... the key is patience… wish you all the best…

I am so sorry to read of your pain. I wish there was something I could do or say to help heal this for you. Needless to say, almost all of us have been there to one degree or another. I can certainly relate to your pain, and can say with much confidence that all things happen for a reason. Looking back on past hurts, I can always see how a situation, though awful to live through, has opened a door to new and positive experiences. For example, a few years ago, my son was kidnapped. Truly the most traumatic experience I have ever (and I suspect will) had. It was a real life nightmare, and I suffered from PTSD for years following this. We got our baby back after five agonizing days, safe and sound by the way. But I must say that I learned so much from this experience, and will never be the same - I mean in a positive way.
The pain and fear opens you to information (so to speak) that you would never gain otherwise. Something so awful I wouldn't wish upon my worst enemy. However in some aspects, I sometimes feel as though I have somewhat of an advantage over other mothers/parents, because I have such unique life experience. I have, in my opinion, a very positive and effective view and approach to motherhood and life that I wouldn't otherwise have.
Life is always hard, and life hurts. You are alive, and your pain is evidence of this. This is truly a gift. God loves you, and only hands you what He knows you can handle. You can and will get through this. And in the end, the rewards will be great. You will be am even more beautiful person, and will touch other's lives in a way that only God can. What I see in you from your writing is a beautiful, loving woman who has a gift of caring and supporting others. I see the strength in you. Take your time with yourself. Forgive yourself. You both were doing the best you could with what you had at the time. I always say, when it comes to negative feelings about myself, " I need to be my safe place to fall for myself." Never be hurtful or destructive toward yourself, as there is a whole world out there full of people willing to do this for you. I truly wish you the best. God is there, and is on your side.

Latinlaydey, right now, you are my ex-husband...meaning that the way you are feeling is how he must of felt when i left. People can't change what they don't acknowledge. I think with my ex husband, he never changed in time because he did not think that the things he were doing would ever cause me to leave. The fact is, after I FINALLY left after having put up with so much from him, wild horses couldn't drag me back. So ask yourself this: 1)if your partner left for good reasons, 2) is this the first time she has left, 3) if she left as a result of something you did, are you willing to change. Anything can be fixed if its not a situation where a person has begged over and over again for change. In your quest to win the affection of your partner back, i would suggest that you don't take on the victim role, be open to suggestions and admit any faults of your own. I wish you the best of luck.

Hi I'm so sorry your hurting. When we fall in love there is no guarantee they will fall back. I have been there and back and it does take time to let go. One convinces themselves that the other person loves them the same. How else can we stay so long. When it ends in anger, that is just your hurt and frustration speaking. If someone really loves you they would see that in time, and maybe you could work it out. But, if not, then you have no choice but to pick yourself up with that little once of energy you have left and move forward without her. This is difficult. I was very much in love with my ex husband. When he remarried it took me a good year to except it. I kept telling myself it was a lie. Then I came to except it and move forward. It was not easy, it was horrible and a nightmare to wake up and get out of bed. How can someone say that they love you and yet when it comes down to it, there actions speak louder then words. But, I believe that there is someone out there, we just have to be willing to once more put it on the life. Time is a great healer, and learning to move forward and face the possibility that maybe love still waits it takes courage. I am now dating again, and if it works it works, if not, i'm going to be ok. I've learned I'm stronger then I thought, and you will learn this too, I know you can't believe it right now, but it will come in time. You will one day look in the mirror and say "hey, look I'm a good guy and someone will want that", then you will be ready to go out and fine her. Give yourself some time..When I feel bad, I force myself to do something I love, and even when I didn't want to do it, I did it and found I was laughing again.

Please take this with the love in which it is written - but get off the couch, get off the computer, and go out and do something! I know you loved from deep inside, and when you lost your lover, you feel like you are incomplete, incompetent, incapable of carrying on. I admire your inner spirit, but she has moved on - and it is time you moved on, too! And while it is painful when everything you see is tinged with the knowledge that "she" was there, and helped you choose it, and "she" was all important to every decision you made for so long, it is time you started making your own decisions alone, and stopped seeing "her" in every item in your home.

Go out, meet new people, get active. What is funny is that somewhere out there right now, your next lover is sitting, waiting for you to meet her. She is wondering where you are. She dreams of lazy days and loving nights, having you - YES YOU! - next to her. But, I can guarantee you will not meet her if you have frozen your soul pining away for the last lover. Do not give the departed lover any more power over you! She had the best and chose someone else. Move on! The next broken heart is awaiting you!

Hi. my heart bleeds for you. I lost the love of my life 5 years ago. I was so devasted. It was my fault and I didnt know what I had lost until she was gone. The only words of hope I can offer is you will get past this. This will make you stronger. ironically, this past love of mine has re-entered my life. But as a friend. I have a new g/f now and I am madly in love with my new g/f. The old wants me back! Not happening....I am happy. I have moved on and learned from a lesson.....you too will move on. I promise. Feel free to stay in touch, I'll help you get thru this..andrew

I know how you feel. I've been through it too. Most people have... the key is to allow yourself to heal, (it takes some time) but know that it is only an injury and not permanent. We are all drops of God and there is another wonderful person out there who will love you for who you are. You only need to try again. Understand that things go wrong for a reason and, one day, when you've found a perfect partner, you'll be grateful that it ended. Be glad that you had the wonderful times you did together, but let it go with grace. The best is yet to come. Big Hug!

"We are all drops of God", you said. I love this!!! So perfectly said: )

It's hard to know what to say to someone you Don't know, yet your heart has been where theirs is. I'm not sure that being familiar with that person is required, in order to sympathize with them. Please bear with me, I just woke up and still working on my first cup. Coming from someone who's been there, sweetheart, you are in my prayers. Nothing I can say or do will remove your pain, nor restore your relationship, but, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Hell, if misery loves company, i would be proud to let you rest your head on my shoulder until you "get your wits back.". I'm heading back to Florida today, and will check back in on you from time to time. Be safe, be loved, and never stop being YOU.

Dear people - reading your pain here makes me appreciate how lucky I have been through life. I don't really remember the bad part of my life but my friends and family told me afterwards I was depressed.

I remember feeling that my employers were responsible for my condition and spent ages planning my revenge. It was an arson attack on the head office that I felt responsible for things not being right.

If you cannot share deep distress resulting from rejection by individuals or organisations do you agree it might, as in my case, turn to criminal acts or revenge violence?

In the UK we do not have easy access to weapons so the arson attack phased itself out during the difficult planning stage.

Is it understandable that in the USA where weapons are indeed available the desire for revenge expresses itself in the carnage in schools or of firefighters?

Wishing you all the very best in the New Year and hope you are able to put your personal distress in perspective to that being suffered by the families and community of all those dear children slaughtered by one who was of disturbed mind.

I hope it will somehow comfort you to know that there are a lot of people hurting in this world and I am one of them. What I do is always always try and struggle to be positive about things. Think of all the lessons learned and always think that something good will come out of this experience. I know its very hard most especially when you think that everything is in darkness already. but we just have to keep on believing. Not that this is a short process, even up to now, I have my bouts of darkness. but we have to learn to re-channel our energies. Focus onto something that makes you happy and fulfilled (like your job perhaps? or charity work?) so that you will spend less time and energy feeling sad. I wish you happiness. You always have a support group in this site. =)

My hubby was unfaithful with younger women and announced leaving me that was five years ago. He remortgaged house bought his own place furnished it completely to his taste. I never gave up hope, five years on I have been through so much hurt and heartache but bit by bit like fog clearing you come to a place where you laugh again and regain some sense of normality. In my darkest hours I prayed and cried out to God, I was fortunate to have a friend who comforted me. I write and still do pages of anger, hurt but nowadays less frequently. I have my husband still I stay with him weekends, he's never said sorry or explained but he's changed and is loving and kind. I think he misses me when I'm not here. I can't forget and I can't forgive I just accept and cope, I think I get by I will never be the same again. Christmas was lonely the kids came out if duty and left early evening, I feel very alone but I have my faith to comfort. Stay strong you can go on and you can survive time heals.

Wow you must really love him to go thru so much.

I know you love this man, but why? He is a pain monger. He would slice your soul into ribbons without a second thought. And when your children "see you out of duty", it tells me that you are putting off the total "victim" vibe. Of course it's out of duty! You are letting this man trample your soul, and they see it, and you are living it.

I always say that people do things because on some level, it works for them. That goes for you, too. You "love" him, but on some level his living apart from you, you being the victim, the weeks and months and years of self-flagellating pain, all this is feeding into something that you want, that you need.

May I suggest another path? How about you decide to be strong, stand on your own two feet, and cut this man out of your life? You are too young, too beautiful in your own right to take this kind of hideous abuse! Get some counseling so that you can understand why you need to be used like this. Join a church, some clubs, make some new friends not associated with this guy, and give those people a chance to meet the real you - the active, loving, open, caring, you that everyone actually has inside once they drop the mantle of being the victim!

He had affairs with younger women - at this point years later - you must ask yourself - SO WHAT? Get over it, get going! There is a loving, caring, patient, and very excited person out there for YOU now, just go find him! and leave your soon-to-be-ex in the dust!

thank you all for responding, ive been doing deep down soul searching, no matter how sad life seems at time, i know were really never alone, im going to practice what i preach, im sad, hurt, broken, but THERE IS HOPE, i just cant thank you all enough, Bless you all

10 months & I still feel the pain! The only thing u can do is hope that 1 day u will wake & this person won't cross your mind. I am forever changed from my heart breaking. I will protect my heart after it's done healing. What a horrible lesson to have to learn & I wouldn't wish this pain on anyone!! Good Luck to u

Hi I'm deeply troubled I would like to say I'm sorry for your heart ache.....I too am dealing with the same issues I pray that that your heart heals first thing u can try is to Atleast make peace with your situation if your sure there is nothing else u can do u have to make peace with it or else you may fall into a very depressing state that u can't get of its hard I know but u can't wallow in it you will love again....take it one step at a time

I am someone who has never been in love nor been loved. Oddly enough, it makes me identify with what you have written. I hope this advice doesn't sound trite, but there are times when nothing fills the bill like either some "Angry, Fem Music" or actually listening to Adele sing some of her older, Grammy winning songs can hit the spot. So can some old (and that word is meant to be taken literally) Patty Smith stuff. But what serves as salve for my sad feelings the most is listening to Mozart. His genius allowed him to put whatever he was feeling at any given point in time into his music. When I am sad, I listen to his 43rd Symphony. He wrote that just after one of his baby daughters passed away. She was always sick and you can hear her shrills in pain right there in the first movement. Okay, I am an odd ball to say the least, but I would like to see you feel brighter. I know that it seems like it will never happen at this point in your life, but amazingly enough it passes. No living human can get through life without this pain, yet some how, it always does go away.

I am so sorry for all your hurt & pain. They say time heals all wounds...I hope in time your pain lessens and you will find happiness again.

You go by "latinlaydey". Your writing implies you're a man. That's an instant credibility problem to trust your story. If you really want advice... at such a dark time in anyone's life I know of ONLY ONE solution... Jesus Christ, as taught in the New Testament of the Bible. Find the book of Matthew and start reading. You'll find the first chapter a bit "boring" unless you like geneology (tracing Jesus' family ties back through history). In the Old Testament I found the book of Lamentations to be comforting when I was most hurting. Psalms has some great portions of comfort/empathizing as well. Good luck!

Lol I think she's gay

Your response implies you are afraid of your own feminine side and that you didn't read the bottom of this woman's post. But good luck to you with jc and all that

Please don't let anyone break your heart , because if she's really worth it she won't do that to you.
I've been in your shoes but today I woke up thinking if she really loved me how could she break my heart .
Yes I am still shattered into peaces like you are , but I'm healing , I try to keep myself busy with anything .
Next time don't put all your heart out , keep holding it tight , because once you love someone with all your heart you are giving them the power to break it .

i guess its harder with the holidays, lonelier, i had no intention of falling so deep it took me by surprise becuz i was being very careful, it will be a very long time before i ever let anyone that close to my heart, im here for you too

If you need to talk I am here. I might help a little but u don't know.

Thank you, its nice to know real people are out there willing to lend a hand in times like this,

Hang in there....I don't know how long you were with this person but it takes time, more than we want usually. If your a reader I suggest reading some good books......uplifting books. My divorce will be final a year in Jan.... I still hurt so much. Cry often and take it one day at a time. Remember things can change overnight......

yes thanks i have downloaded some books, i enjoy reading so that will help and im sorry about your divorce, crying does cleanse the soul, im here for you too

The only thing you have to know, "it's her loss, and you can and will find better."

Thank you i will keep that in mind

You're welcome.

Don't worry so much. There are friends to be found here. Four months... that's a lot of grieving. If she won't respond to you at all... can she even hear you anymore? Maybe if she can, she's not hearing what she's listening for. Or if she can't maybe you need to start picking up the pieces. I know it sounds impossible but it isn't. Do you have a friend IRL that can just give you the hug you need and let you sigh and cry a bit? It can be quite cleansing and soothing. I hope you find this comment and let it help you feel not so alone.

Thank you for responding, i have cried many tears, and it does help, right now i dont see so clearly but i dont feel alone anymore,