Missing My Husband

He left me for another woman after 35 years of marriage. I feel like I've been thrown out like the trash.
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6 Responses Jan 14, 2013

Oh my gosh.....I am so very sorry. What a terrible thing for him to do! My heart breaks for you. Many years ago my husband left me for another woman. At that time I was reminded of the story of the Prodigal Son. I had a book and it related it to marriage and it was helpful to me. I hope you are able to get some peace and that things work out for the best for you. Sending you hugs.

Thank you, yes he is my prodigal. Some days my emotions get in the way. I spoke with him yesterday and he did admit they are living together. Thank goodness I was able to control my emotions. The day before I had sent a text saying I was not giving up on him or our marriage, God wouldn't let me and if he was ever unhappy in his life my door was open. I did ask him to take a really good look at his life and ask himself if he thought it was God led. When he admitted they were living together I was able to say even so I was not giving up on us. I did hear his voice break as he said "I know, I read your text". Most people don't agree with me even my grown children but I KNOW my husband. He is a good man, a christian with a kind heart but he let alcohol alter his judgement and gave satan that crack to slip in. I have given this to my Lord Jesus, asked Him to fill me with comfort as only He can. God can change my husband in one second, but if He choses not to then I just pray for His strength not to become a bitter and angry person again. Sorry I didn't mean to write a book.

You are a very strong woman and I admire your strength. It's your life and your marriagevandbyou need to do what you feel is best for you. This is all very new so it really isn't for anyone else to judge. As you said, you know your husband. Keep praying to God and I really hope all turns out for the best for you. Stay strong, take care and if you need to chat/vent I'm here (hug)

I am SO sorry. I know how much you are hurting. All I feel is pain. After reading this, I have decided that each and every time I feel like I'm going to lose it, I am going to pray for the both of you and try not to think about how much I'm hurting - so there will be A LOT of prayers sent up today because it's slow at work, and I really can't concentrate on anything.

Thank you and I will pray for you also. I know God wants only good for us. Nothing is too big for God! The only problem is when I let my circumstances be my focus I forget this. I know this is satan at work! I don't recall if you said your husband has remarried but Rejoice Marriage Ministries is a good resource to connect with. It is so good to have someone to share with.

Well, my cirucumstances are a little different from yours, but the pain is still excruciating. I had been dating a man for several years, and about a week before Christmas we became engaged. Then, on Dec 23 he met some chick at a restaurant and suddenly I am OUT! I was Sooo good to him! I just don't understand how he could just dump me so easily after all this time. It hurts to think that I was so easily expendable. The thought of them together is just more than I can bear. I having a really hard time sleeping and eating. Are you experincing any of that? I pray about this constantly but there is just no relief. I know you are right. Nothing is too big for God, it's just hard right now.

He reconnected with an old friend on FB and said he didn't know how it happened but they fell in love. Like I'm supposed to say I understand. Beer is the main culprit here he drank up to 3 cases of beer a week during this time. I don't drink and I don't go to bars. Been there done that. His new girlfriend drinks as much as him and they are having the time of their lives. My daughters have cut off all contact with him so he basically walked away from all of us including the grandchildren. What makes this even more horrible is he is an ordained southern baptist minister. He went to seminary for two years while I supported the family (I don't regret this part) then he pastored for 10 years preaching the gospel. He was a bivocational pastor meaning he worked 40 hours a week and pastored a small church. This took a toll on him it wore him out that is the reason he stopped, it wasn't because the church asked him to leave. We got lazy and stopped going to church. That was the crack satan needed to start destroying our marriage. I just pray that God will call him back and convict him of what he is doing. I just can't give up on my marriage.

48. divorced and still in love. he left me for another woman and got her pregnant. i divorced him still love him but can't be friends. it's too tough for me.

One of the first things he said after he left was he hoped we could be friends. I don't think that could ever happen. They have no clue the level of pain they have caused. Can you believe he texted me at 12:06 on New Years and said Happy New Year he hoped me the best in 2013. I just lost it. I texted him back and told him that was the meanest thing he had done to me so far. He kissed his girlfriend at midnight and texted me 6 minutes later. I'm NOT giving up on my marriage and you don't have to either! I found Rejoice Marriage Ministries online and they have been a great help to me. Even if your husband has a baby with her that is no guarantee he will stay with her. You need to pray for your marriage. I know at times I get so down I'm ready to give up.

i"m so sorry you're in so much pain; that's horrible. i won't wish him bad JUst hope you finally find happiness sweetie. Leave it in God's hands.

My situation is similar to yours. I have read some of these posts, and most of them seem like they are much younger people. I know this sounds crazy, but I was feeling like there was no one out there our (?) age going through this. I am a 53 yr old female and I feel like I am drowning.