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To Everyone Out There That Has Ever Had Their Heart Broke..

 Most of the time it is the worse pain in the world.  You feel like you are robbed of a future that will never happen.  You doubt yourself, you feel as if it was your fault, and the worst part is the emptiness you feel inside that is the void that person used to fill.  The worst part is most of the time you do not even know the nagging question in your mind of why.  You replay over and over in your head what you ever told the person.  You replay in your head over and over what you want to say or should have said to them.  And then at night the bed is so big and alone.

You will survive!   You will be strong again someday!  If I could hug everyone that hurts so much as mentioned above I would.  But its the love in your heart that you once have that makes the dream of love so worth it!  Never again give your heart to just anyone.  Never again trust until that person proves they will take your heart and love it just as you would love theirs.  Learn from your past mistakes in relationships when possible but never ever loose faith in yourself.  The night may be long but the sun will rise!   Love may be foolish but its so worth it in the end.  I myself will gladly get my heart broken a thousand times if it means I will have it loved in the end.  

Peace, love, hope, and dreams.  They are the goodness of this world and throwing them away would be the greatest tragedy of all.

Take care of each other EP and above all Love each other and do your best to not break any hearts....

denverguy denverguy 36-40, M 91 Responses Jul 24, 2009

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This really helped me. I just had a bad break a few months ago, and it seems that every time I start getting better something happens and I back track, but I know one day I will finally be over this and move on. I know there must be someone out there for me, I just wish it wasnt so hard to find that person

I am happy this helped you :)

During my second year at uni my three year relationship ended when the person I love fell in love with my best friend and saw her behind my back, I never thought that the pain I felt could ever be beaten. Everyday was a struggle and I felt like I should have died of a broken heart.

Then a year later I fell in love again, this felt amazing, like the best feeling in the world. I was wary at first to trust but then I fell deeply in love with him. 9 months later he breaks my heart and leaves me for no real reason other than fear and a change in what he wanted. This happend 2 weeks ago and I feel as if I am dieing all over again, except this feels worse. I thought I would be stronger but this hurts even more than last time. I just want to give up.

Oh I am so so so sorry to hear that :(

That is so true i know the feeling why i have trouble letting anyone in now:)
So many deceiving people its sad, i know that empty feeling and its something i never want to feel ever again if i can help it:)

I am in the exact same boat right now!! I know what kinda woman I want, and if she is ever going to have my heart she will have to prove she wants to be my best friend first and have the same dreams as I, or willing to share hers and blend them with mine. I feel like I am so picky now but I have not given up.

I agree with you there referring to to the opposite gender:)

I hope things get better for you :) (((hugs)))

I cried when I read this because this is exactly what I'm going through right now. Nice to know that there's someone out there who understands so whole-heartedly.

I am so sorry about your broken heart and your tears :( Sadly I have been there too many times in my life. Things will get better for you!!!

I hope so. It's been over a month and it still hurts as fresh as if it happened yesterday.

my last one happened almost a year ago.. it took many months to get over her, and even though I still think about her now and then, it got easier and better.

I'm sorry :-( This **** sucks canal water. I hope your next love is the love you've been looking for.

Would you mind if I add you?

please add me! I am always happy to meet new people here especially ones that are so in need :)

Spiffy! :-D

And, guessing off your user-name, are you in the Denver area too?

Im just going through this too . My first ever heart break

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What a sweet message to give those who have had their hearts broken in dating relationships. Denverguy, you a real gift with writing and knowing how to get your point across with such intelligent, understanding, kind, soothing and thoughtful words. Anyone whose gone through breakup in a relationship knows just how devastating, and what a sad, hopeless, empty feeling one has in the pit of their heart. Broken Heart is the exact and correct name for it. You can eat or sleep and cry often. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy, and I don't even have one. IT HURTS!!

Thank you so much for the compliment!! I am truly beaming at your kind words :)

I meant every word I said about what you wrote denverguy. I think it's so gracious and kind of you to be thinking about not just your broken, but the fact that you're caring enough to help other people who have gone through a breakup and, or, are going through one at the present time. My son went through a breakup with his girl friend of 3 years. It wasn't his idea, she wanted to date another man she met, and wanted her space. It devastated him and it hurt me worse to see what a number it was doing on him. I didn't think he would ever come out of it. I liked her too, but that's just life in the big cities. He found a new job and didn't date at all for 2 years. Then he met his soul mate on Dec. 31st, 2008 at a New Year's Eve Party, they dated for over 2 years and they got married April 30, 2011. They are both so happy and very much in love. Guess all good things come to those who wait and have suffered a broken heart. Good Luck in finding your love and soul mate! Take care now!

Thank you, and glad you liked it! It's just too bad, though, that most people don't get to find their soul mate the 1st time they meet and date each other. Breaking up and ending a long relationship is hard to do, and so heartbreaking, at the time it happens, especially for the one who didn't want it to end.

This post is warming Denverguy, and it is very true, every aspect of's heart is fragile and open and vulnerable. you can feel so joyous and have your heart and love discarded and torn too :( I liked the line as you stated, 'you replay what you want to say or should have said to them', and in that breakage, is a vast emptiness that seems will never be filled :( Thank you for offering moments of light here amidst a heart that is sullen, barren, or are an endearing writer.

thank you so much for your compliments and your sweet words! Many mountain dews to you for them :)

Haha... ty Denver:) Just got some diet Mt. dew today..Ty for your post here of the most endearing ones I've seen

yay! Mnt dew party for both of us!!! and I am blushing now too :) Of everything I ever wrote here on EP this story is one I am very proud of because of all the responses I ever had from it. One lady even told me on here she was going to post this on her refrigerator!

Wow, now THAT's impressive sir :) It truly was an inspiring read.. having your heart broken is devastating, so much so that you want to crawl into ur bed, and never come out.. you feel ripped down/dejected :( but I love the line," Never again give your heart to just anyone," and , "..never lose faith in yourself"... I have been very "unfaithful" to/in myself , thinking guys or others are better and more than me and that I don't have much to offer:( .. but, that line , Never lose faith in yourself..that was a wonderful one.. Ty Denver guy :)

The pleasure really is all mine!! Reading your comment made me smile very big :)

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What a lovely post it bought a tear to my eye

i still have a broken heart from a previous relationship a very personal story i shared on EP im now in a new relationship but every word in your story is 100% correct

love it

I am sorry to bring a tear to you :( I have been there so often and in many ways I sometimes wonder how my last gf and I went so wrong with each other that we ended up breaking up so I totally understand how you feel!! Thank you for your very sweet words :)

To block love because of fear will hurt you more at the end. I like the idea of I'll have my heart broken many times and at the end I will end up living true love at last.
Love is an experience of moments here and moments there and it's so great when you live those moments to the full extent and intent.
Can love go away in an instant? Yes, like a car accident, it can rob you of the possibilities just like that without reason you can internalize.
Can you grief for lost love? Absolutely! A part of you, a bond, a connection is lost. That does not mean you stop living, but you need time to process the loss.
Is it your fault? Never! Even if you two seemed compatible some time, there is a deeper sense that you were not meant to be together. The time you had together was meant for joy, fullfiment and experience at the time and no more. To grow and mature. To be better prepared to recognize and appreciate the ultimate, final, real love.
So keep on loving and keep if growing for your ultimate destination. We may feel desperate to get there, but patience will help us to complete our journey.
Love in full freedom.

That is pure brilliant and I loved every word!!!! :)

your kind compliment is humbling :-)

I think you should copy and paste what you wrote and make it into your own broken heart story! So many would love to read it I am sure!! I know I enjoyed it! :)

I was thinking and will do that.


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That is so true. Unfortunately most of the time we don't have any control over our feelings. They just are and we can't control whom we fall in love with. Or can we? I wonder what it is the causes the sparks to fly :)

I so agree with you!! I am not sure what makes sparks fly other then look back on the girls I have felt that way towards and know that the one's that make me feel that way the strongest are the ones that are full of life, able to dream with me about the future, smile when they greet me and act warm towards me (hugs, touching, body language, ect,), make me laugh and laugh at me, chemistry in the bedroom, and seem to genuinely care about my over all well being.

I suppose it's all about the chemistry.. a genuine connection that is felt from the beginning.. usually. Looking back, that's how it was for me anyways :)
Like finding a little bit of yourself in the other person..

exactly!!! and I also know that there are things about that person that I tend to copy myself for the rest of my life or change me in some way if that makes sense? Whether it was something they said, or something they believed, or whatever. Oh and one more thing about my response, no matter how they look, dressed, feel, ect, I am attracted to them and think they are pretty or such. My ex gf was over 100 pounds over weight when I first met her but I still fell hard for her. She actually has lost most of it and she looks really good but the honest truth is I still would of felt the same about her had she never lost anything. I guess part of my answer is I always know it really was love after the break up because I think about that person the rest of my life. I have 3 girls now that will roam my heart and I just am crossing my fingers that girl number 4 will be the one!

That is so true. We keep a little bit of what that person taught us with us for the rest of our lives. I always think about my lost loves, I mean how can you forget them, even though it's over.. there was something strong enough to pull me towards them at one point, and some lessons that they taught, even unaware of it, just by them being, simply stick with us. And you are right, it's absolutely not about looks at all. When we love, we love them for who they are, and not for their outer shell. I am hoping that your girl number 4 will be a keeper :) Hugs!!

awww thank you!! that was extremely sweet of you to say :) I hope your going to be happy the rest of your life as well because you seem to view love as I do and the world needs that :)

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Love can come in so many forms....a traditional relationship is only one facet of love. Love can come in the enjoyment of what you are doing, or in the help of a friend or even in the face of your pet. Love is all around us. You have to look carefully, but you can find it if you need it.

very wise thoughts :)

That's exactly how I feel right now. Especially the part about being "robbed of a future that will never happen". That's the worst feeling. I am sorry you had to go through that but it helps me to know that I'm not alone with this :)

The crazy part about life is I wrote this then met a girl I actually fell hard for and dated her for a couple years. This story, and comments like yours has helped me except that she was not the one for me and to move on with my life. Thank you for your kind words :)

very well and deeply stated. "Never again trust until that person proves they will take your heart and love it just as you would love theirs". I let one guy tried to convince me so hard for few months, until i fell into him, and I thought i gave myself enough time to get to know him, and he was really persistent. one day he never returned my call nor my text. and 2 months past by, im still wondering what i did wrong.

im so happy i can never love

I am just amazed for what I've just read, it's my honor to have come across to your story, it's really nice and very well said. It's really helpful to those who are going through broken hearts and to those who are still in the complicated relationship, i will keep this mind. It's one of the most nicest post I've ever read here. You seems smart and sincere that's why you're story captured our attention, i really read it from the start and til the end, I understand every words I've read from this story.
I learned from this:) Thanks for posting it!

Wow!! thank you so much for the compliment :) I am happy you read it :)

I'm glad you're happy:)

I am glad to come across this I got my heart broken a second time a few months ago and I cried hysterically I felt like I got the wind knocked out of me and sick to my stomach my chest was aching and to make things worse he lied and I got no real explanation of why he ended things I thought I loved him I don't think he loved me he said he did but I think he just said it but didn't mean it.

I am sorry about your break up :( Sounds like me and my ex gf who I dated for a couple years. I felt so in love with her and she was not happy in the relationship even though weeks before we broke up she wanted to just go to the court house and get married. Why do they do that to us? Why waste our time if they don't feel the love?

There is a lot of love in the world and I agree with you.. However there's only one true love

Loved this.

I'm 20 years old. I've only 4 boyfriends ever, all 4 were serious, and all entirely ripped out my heart & threw it in a wood chipper. I said i was done with all of them, said i'd wait to love again, wait the time was right. I've been single a year now, and have never been happier. Feels great.

There are many advantages to being single. Its so much better to just live your life and not rush things.

Thanks, encouraging and consoling to me now.

Your welcome, we all need it now and then

Tears are streaming down my face right now but your beautiful words have uplifted my spirit. Thank you for the inspiration to mend a broken heart.

I am so sorry for your tears, I been there too many times myself. I am happy my words have helped you :)

You are so right! It took me years to get over my broken heart. Your words will encourage many. Thanks! :)

This is magnificent. Absolutely beautiful

I Love it , thank u for this!

Your so very welcome :)

Thank you very much!!! I have a broken heart right now and this made me feel a little better.

I hope it will get better for you in time. Life is always full of ups and down. :(

I love the way you described your feelings.... sadness, depression but then you revive and relive and spread positive feelings... thank you for sharing. I know that we all have to suffer for some sort of personal growth... but than again: Does "Love" really exist if we only suffer because of it? I sometimes doubt that each one of us is lucky enough to experience real love on earth... there are too few really feeling happy in their relationships... most are based on a mental decision whether related to money or other reasons. I just have lost faith in relationships and love... over a decade I am suffering from partners that misuse my trust and lie, cheat, and put their loyalty to other women. I am so tired of it, at times I feel I could just leave the city and buy a cabin or log home in the middle of a forest and be by my own... maybe I ll do it one day!

Thankyou soo much for what you said. You don't know how much it made me felt good. You gave me an inspiration. Thankyou soo much! They may say that I'm still young for this so-called Love but I believe there's no age requirement to feel love, right? But, thankyou again, and God Bless you. :)

but how to face the world ahead and hoping the sun will shine when inside u r allready dead

This was absolutely so beautiful

well said! thanks for posting...

Great ...

thank you

ur welcome

thanks.. so inspiring and make me wanna try to move on

I hope you do move on!! Just make sure its with the right person is all. Go slow and give it time.

yup.. i ll try my best and don't wanna make same mistake more and more.

My wish for you is the next person is the one for you for sure then and not just another mistake!! :)