It's Like A Slap In The Face..

So, it's been about a month since he told me he "needed some time to figure things out." Since he told me that even though he loves me more than anything and I'm the most important person in his life, he doesn't know why (after 6 YEARS) he doesn't want to be in this relationship right now. I was willing to give him the space he needed...I moved out of the house and in with my parents. And now....now I log on to a social networking site that we both use to find him looking for roommates. I read that he's tired of our state and looking to move about 75+ miles away and wants to know if anyone wants to go with him....

Talk about a slap to the face. I am sitting around depressed, crying and broken hearted..I started going to therapy to deal with the stress this has caused me. I have tried everything to maintain communication with him and I've even tried to help him through this any way he'll let me and THIS is what I get for all the pain? He tore me life apart and now, just when I think things are getting a little better he pulls the rug out from under me? He had to of known I'd read his post. It's ridiculous to think I wouldn't. This is just his passive aggresive way of telling me without having to say it to my face. I wanted so much to believe that we could get through this and 3 or 4 months from now it would be in our past but now I wonder if he just asked for a "break" because he didn't have the guts to break-up with me.

I've loved this man for 6 years. I gave him everything I had and more. How he could act like this is beyond my comprehension. This isn't the man I know. I don't know who he is.

JustTemp JustTemp
26-30, F
2 Responses Feb 25, 2010

No, I haven't asked because I'm pretty sure I already know the answer. He's looking for a fresh start. A new apartment, a new job, a new location...it's what he wants. Actually, it's what we both wanted and planned on doing later this year. But now he's taken all our plans and made them his plans.

i know how u feel im going throught this with a 12 year realaship and i feel so alone my advise to u is that u have to let him chose what he wants and then u have to let him go . have u tryed asing why hes moveing away ?