My Husband Been Having An Affair For 3 YearsMy story begins with the loss of my still born son. I delivered my son on Jan 14, 2010. He was born with the cord wrapped around his neck. It was my 8th
child with my husband of 21 years. We have one daughter and 6 sons ranging in age from 21 down to 2. I have been through hell since this has happened to me but I realized I really wasn't in complete hell yet! By June I figured I would take my 6 sons on vacation back to my hometown of Boston. We stay with my husbands family when we come home as they have a home on a lake. Well, my husband flew up for a few days to attend his parents anniversary party. One night he was out front drinking with his brother. It was late and I was already in bed. My husbands phone rang and he answered it and walked away. When he returned my brother in law asked who it was. My husband replied..Barbara...don't you remember her? Come to find out, on the two occasions that my brother in law visited with us in GA, this woman had met them at a local bar for a drink. My husband told him it was a co worker and he thought nothing of it. He then started connecting the dots after the phone call and asked Jim if he was having an affair. My husband just put his finger up to his mouth as if to say "Shush". My brother in law felt horrible all night and decided to confront me with the situation. He said I think Jim is doing something you need to be aware of. So we decided to look into the phone records. I could go back for 2 1/2 years and her phone number was plastered all over his phone at all hours, text messages at all hours and while I was on vacation with my sons, there were lapses in time on the phone bill with her number. I know that at those times, she was either at my house or he was staying with her at her house. When confronted...he admitted he had a friend named Barbara but that was it, just a friend. I asked...a friend that I didn't know about for 2 1/2 years is ridiculous. He continues to deny having sex with her and said he just liked to hang out with her because she liked to party and smoke pot and I don't. So not only did I lose a precious little baby, but not 6 months later I learned my husband was having a long standing affair. This woman even emailed me and told me that their relationship was inappropriate but she felt I didn't appreciate him enough. Needless to say, I am filing for a divorce and trying to pick up the pieces of my life. I don't understand why a man can't understand that even if there was no sex, an emtional relationship with another woman is just as painful. Although I firmly believe they did have a sexual relationship. My life is in total turmoil trying to raise 7 children now that have to know what being a divorced family is like. I could never go back to him knowing that while I was in the hospital delivering a dead baby...he was on the phone with his girlfriend! I was in the hospital for a week, it took me 3 days to deliever him and then I neeeded emergency surgery to get the placenta out and then a blood transfusion as I had lost so much blood. While I was in that hospital he had 52 text messages to her in one day and 2 hours after my son was born, he was on the phone with her for 37 minutes! Can anyone help me understand what kind of man would do that to his wife of 21 years?