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Had A Cheating Husband

Huh...lol.. wow... I want to speak out about CHEATERS. I know alot about them. Lived with a couple of them. I can handle, forgive, about almost anything and go on when it comes to working on a relationships.

BUT i will not stand for a cheater. My last husband was ... sigh mind blowing, i blew my own mind in my own actions. I turned the other cheek too many times. Jeff, right off the bat... yup, on our wedding night! he didn't come to bed with his new wife but partied with friends and this cute little .... gal. I can not even express what happened to me that night. I disappeared with shock and pain.

Then a year or so later... sigh... another...he had a new girlfriend. Then... another, my best friend Mary.... then years later with my effing neighbor and THEN with my girlfriend ...another one... don't ya just love your friend... evil giggle. ... doesn't say much for me does it!?

So.... there ya go! I HAD a cheating husband. I have worked hard to rebuild my life and ... renew my spirit and respect in myself. Think long and hard ladies..... Please, treat yourself with top respect, consider yourself first. If you don't... they won't!!!!

MorningBreeze MorningBreeze 56-60, F 43 Responses Jan 14, 2012

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hello sweetie
tell me your feelings when your ex Husband was cheating on you ?
do not you want to get a Man with a big Cockkk drilling in your Pusssy to punish him ?

you are a sick dog.. that made no sense at all. go away you fool... another bites the dust.. you are blocked.

That guy is sick, sorry you had to get that, you had enough pain and insult, not all men are so pathetic.

On the wedding night?! And you didn't immediately have it annulled the very next day? Why did you stick around for more?

I was a loser. Married two times already. I was ashamed of myself... yes.. and became even more shameful. ...Live and Learn

Don't be ashamed - you probably were brought up to put up with crap, or maybe somebody really hurt you and killed your self-esteem. Just don't let people mistreat you again!

Blessings to you honey.... *smile* Yup... I was once a victim of abuse from father to ... my men. I was "conditioned" since childhood to .... :-( Not any longer, but some things never change, I still carry a cross.

I don't think that you were a loser. As the saying goes "it takes two to tango". I always try to see bad experiences as an opportunity to learn a lesson. I was divorced many years ago and emerged a wiser, happier person in the end.

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I just hearted this story. Heck of a woman, she is a good friend of mine! ;-)

THERE ARE AT TIMES REASONS FOR A SPOUSE TO CHEAT.
THEY ARE VERY LIMITED.
IF YOU DON'T AGREE PLEASE GO DO A SEARCH FOR " Sexless Marriage" THERE ARE A NUMBER OF GROUPS THAT COME UP. IT WILL HELP CHANGE YOUR PERCEPTION.

Hey... what can I say....these days. ... sigh............ I know of one reason a married soul would cheat... and I know from past experiences... Folks cheat to fill a hole in the soul.... right or wrong.. IT IS WHAT IT IS! Some just want their cake and eat it too!!!!

AND SOME "CHEAT" BECAUSE THEY WANT THE KIDS TO BE "NORMAL" AND THEY ARE ON AN ISLAND WITH THEIR PARTNER BEING THE ONE WHO DUMPED THEM THEIR PLEASE READ
http://www.experienceproject.com/stories/Abandoned/4608436

Yes, there are good reasons. But I don't think partying with friends and a cute little gal ON THEIR WEDDING NIGHT is one of them.

NO DEAR THAT BEHAVIOR IS NEVER ACCEPTABLE.

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Join the club . . . good advice though. You need to take care of yourself in all ways; emotionally, health-wise, learn to feel good about yourself and of course the happiness factor.

Yes, I am trying. This was written a couple of years ago. Lordy Be.... sigh... It's amazing what can come of a person in such a short period of time. Thanks for reading.

Just looked at the date. You are right. But time heals most wounds so I imagine you're doing okay now. Thanks for responding even though I was 2 years late and a dollar short.

Why didn't you leave him as soon as you caught him cheating on you in the first place?

Just a lonely fool I am/was. I don't know!!?

The only answer is that you did, and that was then, and never again. People learn, it might take a lot of time, maybe a few repeats, but we learn. Do not keep going back to it, that only empowers him, best thing is to say he is the one that lost in the end.

That was nice, thank you.

Add me darling

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Thank you. For the rest of the story.......

If their is a cheating husband, their must be a cheating wife in most case's.

whats the definition of cheating? ****?
************?

Some people think that if your spouse or partner doesn't know about ep that's cheating, and some people have started a fling or affair from friends here on ep. or met people on the sly without their spouse's knowing.

lol. and my husband thiinks ************ is cheating. but giving me an unwanted present isnt. i don't conosider **** or ************ to be cheating. i have friends on here and it helps me to keep sane. to thiink things through. keepingit inside makes me sick

yes, keeping it inside will bring a person to their knees. I know!

and why do you suppose that is?

to some... it's the heart that is cheating. Why can't they enjoy with their spouses or lovers. it is what it is...

yes... maybe.. I was not a cheater, myself. It was years since I bedded with another. Sex is not what makes my world go around... *smile* .. it's icing on the cake!

Ehh, where did you get that from, maybe it happened to someone but that is not the norm.

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so beautifully said. my hubby thinks i don't know. why do they never think you know?

giggles... I have no idea why they assume we are fools. ... but ..guess you take it from the source ..huh? ;-)

the source?

Ouch! Sounds to me he was married on paper only. What a slug.

yup... he left a trail of slime as he moved on from me! ;-)

I am far from perfect, any way I see it. I had strayed while married too.After 4 years of no marital sex, I succumbed to temptation.... I think I may have wrist issues from taking things in had though.... Nobody is perfect, I didnt feel guilty at the time as I was just so thrilled that a woman wanted me...
Signed,,,, divorced now....
So ladies(and gentlemen) if you are passively agressively withholding from your spouse, he or she will eventually stray. Find a way...
Morning breeze, you had unwhittingly married a cad, and he never deserved you.

hug

Life.is too.short, hugs seem to suspend time for that moment, ergo, the more hugs you.experience, the longer you live(here in this ream at least)
I am positive you and I have a lot in common, awesome!
Thanks for the hug......i needed it, its been a very difficult day...

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WOW...................
On the wedding Night?...........
YouAreStrong!
;-)...............

NOPE! I was a damn fool! cut and dry.

right, know what you mean from a woman's standpoint...;-)

do you think anonymous online play with no intention of meeting in person is cheating?

sooo...... what did that heart mean?

it sounds like the heart is searching to fill a void.

it's cheating of the heart, to me.

the heart already cheated.. more ways of cheating then having a body to body experience! Love is based on feelings, emotions... sooo.. if the mind is wondering.. the body will follow... most times...sooner or later... just my opinion.

i guess there is no love or emotion involved in anonymous online play. it is similar to ****, just interractive

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2 kids, married 8 years. husband has always cheated...same bullshit... " its all in your head, low self esteem issues etc etc...its so insulting! too young to know better then. too stuck to exit...im working towards getting a life for me but its hard... how do you get yourself out of the 'stuck' feelings?? don't think I know how to be happy... I can doddle along everyday quite ok on the outside, but it just feels really sad :-( .... any tips, advice?
thanks

Once a cheater always a cheater

ya think?

The doubts will always be there. Given the chance they will.

i like the evil giggle ! :-) glad you got yourselfrespect back . very important !

It took me many years to have any kind of self respect. yes, very important. Thanks!

Sorry, I have had some of the same pulled on my self. By my new wife that desided to be with a black **** on my wedding day.

it takes all kinds don't it

That it does, I just can not beleave the way people are.

sometimes I can't believe the way I AM!

Some times we listen to our hearts and have a real hard time

Hearing our brain.

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I packed my husband's bags one day, a few years ago, and put them in the garage after he had gone to work. I found out he was cheating with a former girlfriend of mine and her juvenile daughter. She and her daughter have been pregnant by him twice each. My adult children to not want anything to do with him and my younger children prefer not to see or be with him. Once a cheater always a cheater and this applies to both men and women.

yes this is true!

cheating women are just as bad! I think your ex was sick and void of emotion.

yes... cheating isn't good! but for sick and void... heck... in one manner or another... we all are sick! but ...such as life. Him being a cheater wasn't the worst of it... he was mean and tore my heart out... everyday. I should of divorce him the day after our wedding...soo... I was the sick and was void of emotions!!!!! I will take on my own doings in a 16yr old marriage. I messed up big time. Lost many years.

walked that same path, my partner cheated on me, hope your pain is gone from that part of your life, tim

it is, thank you!

Do you think it is an addiction ?

huh? maybe... I don't share so... he went.

Yes, i agree with you. The most important thing is we must love ourself!

Guess that is why he was unfaithful... he did not love me. that simple.

MB I really don't think it is about loving or not loving you. Your cheating husband probably has a kind of addiction called arousal addiction - always looking for and needing to make someone fall in love with him.

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Tough story. This guy didn't deserve you, and you didn't deserve the crap he put you through. All marriages go through some rocky times, if you're together long enough. Most times it worth the effort to work through them, but sometimes they're not worth saving. I'm glad you survived this one, which your ex doomed from the start.

That is so horrible. I lack words. And on your wedding night yet! God. Should've kicked him to the curb then. Now you have learned. Please be careful who you love. You deserve better. Hugsssssssssssssssssssssssssss...

This story is remarkable for its sadness. I can hardly imagine a wedding night in which one's husband did that. What a low down thing to do! All I can say is, I am glad you have shaken off the chains that bind you and pray you will keep going from strength to strength.

<p>The only way to teach some respect to cheating partners is to make them become ex cheating partners,</P>

So...are you saying you can't see or spot this pattern before you start a relationship ?

I understand the pain. It is real. Please read my story. I need help too.

That really sucks when that happens

go figure! :) Thanks