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Had A Cheating Husband

Huh...lol.. wow... I want to speak out about CHEATERS. I know alot about them. Lived with a couple of them. I can handle, forgive, about almost anything and go on when it comes to working on a relationships.

BUT i will not stand for a cheater. My last husband was ... sigh mind blowing, i blew my own mind in my own actions. I turned the other cheek too many times. Jeff, right off the bat... yup, on our wedding night! he didn't come to bed with his new wife but partied with friends and this cute little .... gal. I can not even express what happened to me that night. I disappeared with shock and pain.

Then a year or so later... sigh... another...he had a new girlfriend. Then... another, my best friend Mary.... then years later with my effing neighbor and THEN with my girlfriend ...another one... don't ya just love your friend... evil giggle. ... doesn't say much for me does it!?

So.... there ya go! I HAD a cheating husband. I have worked hard to rebuild my life and ... renew my spirit and respect in myself. Think long and hard ladies..... Please, treat yourself with top respect, consider yourself first. If you don't... they won't!!!!

MorningBreeze MorningBreeze 56-60, F 33 Responses Jan 14, 2012

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Ouch! Sounds to me he was married on paper only. What a slug.

WOW...................
On the wedding Night?...........
YouAreStrong!
;-)...............

do you think anonymous online play with no intention of meeting in person is cheating?

sooo...... what did that heart mean?

it sounds like the heart is searching to fill a void.

the heart already cheated.. more ways of cheating then having a body to body experience! Love is based on feelings, emotions... sooo.. if the mind is wondering.. the body will follow... most times...sooner or later... just my opinion.

i guess there is no love or emotion involved in anonymous online play. it is similar to ****, just interractive

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2 kids, married 8 years. husband has always cheated...same bullshit... " its all in your head, low self esteem issues etc etc...its so insulting! too young to know better then. too stuck to exit...im working towards getting a life for me but its hard... how do you get yourself out of the 'stuck' feelings?? don't think I know how to be happy... I can doddle along everyday quite ok on the outside, but it just feels really sad :-( .... any tips, advice?
thanks

Once a cheater always a cheater

ya think?

The doubts will always be there. Given the chance they will.

i like the evil giggle ! :-) glad you got yourselfrespect back . very important !

It took me many years to have any kind of self respect. yes, very important. Thanks!

Sorry, I have had some of the same pulled on my self. By my new wife that desided to be with a black **** on my wedding day.

it takes all kinds don't it

That it does, I just can not beleave the way people are.

sometimes I can't believe the way I AM!

Some times we listen to our hearts and have a real hard time

Hearing our brain.

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I packed my husband's bags one day, a few years ago, and put them in the garage after he had gone to work. I found out he was cheating with a former girlfriend of mine and her juvenile daughter. She and her daughter have been pregnant by him twice each. My adult children to not want anything to do with him and my younger children prefer not to see or be with him. Once a cheater always a cheater and this applies to both men and women.

yes this is true!

cheating women are just as bad! I think your ex was sick and void of emotion.

yes... cheating isn't good! but for sick and void... heck... in one manner or another... we all are sick! but ...such as life. Him being a cheater wasn't the worst of it... he was mean and tore my heart out... everyday. I should of divorce him the day after our wedding...soo... I was the sick and was void of emotions!!!!! I will take on my own doings in a 16yr old marriage. I messed up big time. Lost many years.

walked that same path, my partner cheated on me, hope your pain is gone from that part of your life, tim

it is, thank you!

Do you think it is an addiction ?

huh? maybe... I don't share so... he went.

Yes, i agree with you. The most important thing is we must love ourself!

Guess that is why he was unfaithful... he did not love me. that simple.

MB I really don't think it is about loving or not loving you. Your cheating husband probably has a kind of addiction called arousal addiction - always looking for and needing to make someone fall in love with him.


Not good to wake up, first thing in the morning and be reading this!!! .. troublesome... I left these feelings, memories behind.

Thank you all for reading and repling.



Tough story. This guy didn't deserve you, and you didn't deserve the crap he put you through. All marriages go through some rocky times, if you're together long enough. Most times it worth the effort to work through them, but sometimes they're not worth saving. I'm glad you survived this one, which your ex doomed from the start.

That is so horrible. I lack words. And on your wedding night yet! God. Should've kicked him to the curb then. Now you have learned. Please be careful who you love. You deserve better. Hugsssssssssssssssssssssssssss...

This story is remarkable for its sadness. I can hardly imagine a wedding night in which one's husband did that. What a low down thing to do! All I can say is, I am glad you have shaken off the chains that bind you and pray you will keep going from strength to strength.

The only way to teach some respect to cheating partners is to make them become ex cheating partners,

So...are you saying you can't see or spot this pattern before you start a relationship ?

I understand the pain. It is real. Please read my story. I need help too.

That really sucks when that happens

go figure! :) Thanks

Admire your strength yet I would have got an annaulment..

it's all hindsight for the insight of my future. ... my past has prepared me for this future of mine...so all is well!

Hope your life is better now. I knew of a woman who's husband cheated on her throughout their marriage. Why she stood around I will never know. She always came off like the strong tuff one hmmm not so much huh!

She put up with this man beyond belief..When their children were grown up etc. They decided to move to Texas (the **** capital of the country!) He had met a 24 year old left his wife of 34 years of marriage for this flake and baked special! So sad she wasted all those years. She had met a nice man later on and married him..unfortuantely she passed away early in life late 60's I guess but at least she found some happiness prior..Once they can't be trusted they JUST CAN'T!!!

well, all I can say at this moment is... people do what must be done to survive. My life is very good these days. Thank you

Thanks for your wishes.

All the best

thank you! same to you Mona.

Are you dating someone? Then be careful.

no, not dating anyone. i am careful, i carry precious things with me.. my heart and mind! giggles. don't want any more hurt added to either one. Thanks!

There are so many things you can do for yourself. You can take a class, make new friends go for long rides. I had a woman tell me after she being married for 40 years herself; \"Honey you don\'t need a man there are many things you can do with your life.\" I am passing this along to you for this was from a wise older woman.

I think you should have left long ago. Thank God that you are free.

shotfire honey... i should of divorced his butt the day after i married him!! truth. Thank You! Blessings to you.

I understand the pain. It is real. Please read my story. I need help too. How do you get over the pain?

This story is so horrible I have a hard time commenting on it.

You are such a lovely person inside and out and to have someone abuse you emotionally that way is so criminal.

Once again you have shown your strength in getting away, but the turmoil inside no one but you knows.

It explains your fondness for the four legged animals.

May you soul have peace.

It was june 2010, the day we split-up. 2011 was a hell year for me. 2012 is when I wrote this story. It is as you know 2013.... It has been a ...wow! No words can I think of that expresses what my mind, body or soul went thru.

The things I have learned about myself... it's all good, which brings peace of mind. The 16 yrs I spent with him... sigh... I am just sorry I had no pride within me to have allowed such ... crap!..put nicely. :)

Yup me and my four legged critters, but I have always, since a child loved animals over humans... most days!

You are a very kind soul, I am glad we are friends... lol.. you are good for my ego! *smile* Thank you.

Thank You for sharing so much of yourself. Hopefully others will learn from that Hell you have been through and have the courage you showed.

I understand the pain. It is real. Please read my story. I need help too.

THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Finally a strong woman! I have been reading post after post of woman who think they are super strong for staying with a cheater than you soooo much you made me day.... I dont know you but Im sooo proud of you!

... huh... funny, I wrote this one year ago. It's been over two years now since I dared to be happy. Now lol... I am just plain goofy! *smile* Thank you, I have "worked" very hard these past years to make a better life for myself. I was scared shitless most days! ;-) I feel strong now.

Oh man, you are soooooooo lucky you never had kids with this guy! Makes it so much easier to move on! I applaud you for realizing what a jerk this guy really is and for knowing that cheating is abuse.Rock on MorningBreeze! Rock On!

it's been two years now, all is more than well. i am just sorry my wedding night couldn't of been the day before my divorce! ; ) sad and shameful but the truth!

Well, we have no choice but to accept our ruins and misries. I hope someday he will come to know your loyalty and will reconciliate towards the gemuine relationsship