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I Have a Cheating Husband

Can I Forgive?

By: lostfaithinlove2012
Written on April 29th, 2012
In 09 my husband cheated. A year later he was married to her, and in 2011 the were divorced and he was back at my door step. I made the dicision to work on rebuilding our family and found he was not only cheating with the ex but with another girl as well. And still I'm here working on our relationship. Its been a year now and the last six months have been great, but now I find myself torn. Part of me what's to move forward with him, but the other part cannot forgive. It eats me alive, picturing his life with those other women, I question his love and attraction for me, and I contemplate cheating on him. I don't know what to do.
By: lostfaithinlove2012
Age: 26-30
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    itsfuntoshare
    itsfuntoshare

    Either accept it as a long-term part of your relationship or move on.



    He is who he is...need to decide if you can live with it or even if you want to live it.



    Good luck!

    May 27, 2012
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    rottenrobi
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    It's a long road you've chosen to go down. I'm not saying that you won't be successful and have a good marriage, but it will be a lot of work. Seeking therapy can only help you, whether your marriage stays in tact or not, you still need to talk about this stuff to work through the betrayal. I don't think the old saying that "once a cheater, always a cheater" is written in stone. I think that some men recognize the error of their ways and don't do it again. I worry that you think about cheating. Is that to hurt him? or to fill something that's missing for you? Either way, it won't help anyone or what you are trying to achieve. You already know how painful the after affects of cheating are, so maybe take the moral high road and don't do it. I think you'll feel better about yourself if you don't do it.

    If you can't get over is indiscretions than don't waste your time or his. Life is too short

    May 12, 2012
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    lostfaithinlove2012
    lostfaithinlove2012

    Currently I'm not in therapy however will be soon. I undestand why the relationship failed before, but I will never understand why he cheated, and I know the likelihood of him cheating again is extremely high and I think that fear is what's causing my confusion and desire to cheat. At times I wonder if I'm even really still in love with him. I just don't understand why I continue to put myself in a situation to be hurt by him

    Apr 30, 2012
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    Currently I'm not in therapy however will be soon. I undestand why the relationship failed before, but I will never understand why he cheated, and I know the likelihood of him cheating again is extremely high and I think that fear is what's causing my confusion and desire to cheat. At times I wonder if I'm even really still in love with him. I just don't understand why I continue to put myself in a situation to be hurt by him

    Apr 30, 2012
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    burnedbadly
    burnedbadly

    That's a tough situation. Are you in therapy? Do you understand why he cheated? What makes you think he wont do it again? First time, shame on you, second time, shame on me.

    Apr 30, 2012
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