My Husband Cheated With A Women And Fatherd Three Children

My husband cheated with someone and they had three children together. By the time that someone told me what was gong on, their relationship had existed for about seven years, with children ages 4, 2 and now another child who is a little over a year. My husband and I have been together for over 20 years, and married for 16. We just celebrated our 16th anniversary. in fact, I found out about his other "family' in May of 2011. We have four children together, ages 20, 14, 10, and 5. Our children do not know what has happened. I am so hurt and confused. He promises that people can live together and love each other through situations such as this, but I'm unsure. I do not know what to think or how to even feel. Why should my children not have their father around because of this? would they be better off without him around? i do not know which way is up. It has been a year now, and I'm still unsure of what to do. In addition, we have lost everything -- our financial is ruin. This is truly a challenging time.
kaydelgado kaydelgado
36-40, F
1 Response May 24, 2012

I'm in the same situation I've been with my domestic partner for 12 years and we have 3 children together 2boys ages 8&10 and a baby girl 8mths old he has a 15 year old daughter and in 2008 he cheated and in 2010 had a child from that relationship. He finally confessed to the affair June 2010 i tries to deal with it and then told me about his son that July he was already 2 mths old on top of that he said that he wasn't leaving either of us. It's been 2 yrs and it hurts more everyday. Difference with my situation is that when we met he told me that his religion allowed multiple wives and that it could happen at some point but he knew I did not approve we had a misunderstanding where he thought that when we started having children that I was accepting all of what his religion called for and I thought the opposite.like u I'm very confused he says the same thing as your husband. Did she know about u and your family? Have u met her?