HelplessWhat I've felt in my gut for a while was just confirmed in a series of emails I found. My husband has shown me nothing but love for the 4 years of our marriage. This female "friend" needed her car fixed a few months ago and that's when it all began. Texting back n forth in secrecy, finding excuses to leave the house alone and then after I found suspicious texts he started deleting them and assured me that their friendship was not emotional and that she was a good friend that was easy to talk to. I actually met with her and spoke to her and she had me believe that they were just friends. I had my doubts from the start and then the rumors started. Her fiance dumped her because he suspected their affair. He also is in a band and plays out in bars 4 nights a week while I'm home caring for his child. The other band members girlfriends were warning me about this woman and I tried to convince myself it was just them starting drama as they are known to do that. Then I find a series of emails between them today and it was very obvious they are having an affair and are in love. When I confronted him he tried to turn it around on me and said I wasn't affectionate enough and that there's no passion anymore. We just purchased a home which has put us in serious debt and I quit working 2 years ago to pursue a degree with full time school to better our life and future. I'm at such a loss. If I weren't married, unemployed and now joint owner of a house with him I'd run like hell. He wants to work it out and deleted her from all his accounts and phone and assures me that it's over but how can I ever trust him again. I'm so heartbroken and confused. I never thought he would do something this hurtful to me as he knew it was the one and only thing I couldn't handle.
distraut90 36-40, F 4 Responses 0 Jul 5, 2012