Don't Know What To Do

I'm 26 been married for a year and with him for almost 9 years I recently questioned him on his large cell phone bills and a number he has been calling quite abit and he told me he has been talking to a girl and having a relationship with her for 7 mths and last week ended thing because he had no feelings towards her he told me he wanted to feel in control and it's nothing I have done he wantsthings work and he will do anything to make it happen I am torn on what to do 9 years is a lot of time just to throw away but I don't know if I can ever trust or forgive him again I have considered counciling any thoughts or opinions that will help me?
Needsadvice2012 Needsadvice2012
1 Response Sep 12, 2012

You should try counselling if only to help you weed thru your own feelings. Not sure how your husband handled this issue, but 7 months is a long time to converse with someone secretly. What were the issues or circumstances in which he decided to do that? Is he remorseful? Non nonchalant? If its nothing you did then there may possible be a repeat. You need to talk about your feelings with you husband and sometimes a counselor is that neutral party that can referee and keep things productive.