Cheating Crossdressing Husband And Can't Afford To Leave

I found out my husband was a crossdresser about 15 years ago. I was shocked and really didn't know how to deal with the situation. After talking with him about this and several months later I reluctantly decided to support his fetish.

I later found out that he had been going on the internet and having emotional affairs and webcamming, not just one, there were multitudes. I told him I was going to leave him if he didn't stop. He promised he would. There was one female that he became really attached to. I told him all communication had to stop if we were going to stay together. He assured me that it had. Then I found a profile he had made using this woman's name. When I approached him with it, he accused me of making that profile myself and I was just trying to find reasons to divorce him. Can you believe that.
ter several years of putting up with this kind of crap I finally told him he had to leave. Little did I know that he had a female friend in Michigan and he ran to her. He got into some trouble in Michigan and guess who he called. Me, while he was still with this woman, lying the whole time, telling me he was in Iowa working and staying with his brother. Anyway, that's a whole other story, I am sure I will get to later.
I let him come back home and he promised, he swore he would never cheat on me again. We owned a business which was failing and decided to liquidate everything and move back to my hometown. He stayed loyal for about 2 months after we got back together.
Last year we moved back to California and everything started all over again. This time we had no money and no home so ended up living with his mother. He found a job out of state and went without me. It wasn't even 2 weeks after he left he started having an affair. I begged him to tell me it was over with us, and he would continue to tell me I was crazy and I had concocted something in my head that wasn't true. Yet when I asked him questions, he would become furious with me. Over a 6 month time frame, he had taken my name off all accounts, cancelled all of my credit cards and turned off my cell phone.
Still swearing that he was not having an affair. In february this year he came home, I started looking through his laptop and found out everything. He not only was having an affair with one woman, I found out that he was having an affair with two of his high school friends also. One, was the woman from Michigan the other, he had started playing around with when I had kicked him out and continued that affair for over 3 years, he calls her Mommy and wears diapers and sissy dresses with her.
Now, that I know all of this information, I have told him, he has to tell these women that its over, which he refuses to do.
I am in a situation where I have no money, no job, am 50+ years old can't find a job anywhere and I feel stuck. What can I do, but continue putting up with this from him. Does anyone know of places for me to get help?

mywayrthehiway mywayrthehiway
2 Responses Nov 25, 2012

I wish I knew... I feel conned, lied to and am worried about HIV now.

I suspect my husband is also cheating. I will be 50 this year, I been faithful and attentive to our family now for almost 20 years. He makes up lies or adds on to my faults when I am not around to my daughter. She tells me what he says. I am heartbroken he would say such things.
He told me he had no gay thoughts and he just liked to dress. I told him to do so in private.
Then I seen addresses in his google to and from work to places we never been. Private h