Is Texting Cheating? My Story Continues... :(

My husband deleted his texts from "her", deleted all calls from/to her & finally when his phone rang & I answered it & it was "her" i realized I had fool written on my forehead. Lesson learned:trust gut instinct

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I feel your pain. One week ago today i found out my husband has a sexting addiction. That is a lot to handle, but you need to do what is right for you and you don't need to come to a conclusion today. I say try therapy, but if it doesn't feel right, GOT OUT. Can I ask how you could see the deleted text?

I can feel your pain because my story is so similar. I will tell you that going to counselling both separately and together finally convinced him that sneaking around to call, text or email another woman was definitely cheating! If he hides it from you, that is always true. I hope you can overcome the pain sooner rather than later.

I understand how you feel, my stories are long and still going until I am set and strong enough to end this marriage. In terms of texting, if it something he needs to hide from you then obviously he knows it's inappropriate behavior, therefore it is still considered betrayal and cheating. Now a days, with so many social medias...FB, twitter, skype, they could be communicating a million ways without you knowing. This is my case, each time I have discovered something from the phone bill in the beginning on down to other forms of communications, he would make some empty promise and next time use a different media to communicate until now...every one of his accounts is locked and would notify him via email when a login is done. So I am left with knowing and waiting it out until I can end it. Each day he greets and hugs me with love and all I can think is how fake it is knowing he is already communicating with someone new. My heart goes out to you and hope that you eventually find what will work for you. In the meantime, if you need someone to vent, talk to, mail me. I know there will be times when we all need someone to vent to.

My husband has had to deny certain actions & so forth as well. He has a plan on his phone that we don't get a bill for, I can't track anything & it's always been that way. However, he's never on his phone when I'm around & I can check it at any given time... he doesn't budge. So, I would have to guess that he's not hiding anything, but why the refusal to have a family plan. It's possible that this is a "day" affair of texting & she knows to never text after a certain time... who knows. He's done things that have made me question him as well- but I stay for the kids, they are the only reason. Hugs to you- It's easy for us all to say "go".. but we are all in the same crap & we ourselves can't get out. It's hard, very hard.

I have almost the same life as you.and I feel stuipid,ashamed, fearful,ugly, used up, abuse, neglected and still I stay.for most of the reasons you gave but I know in my heart I deserve better and must move on my health is failing mentally and physical and I'm going to die soon if I don't get out. I think you need to run away or make him leave. I know it's going to be the hardest thing you've ever done. Good luck and my God Give you the strength you need. To succeed were so many of us fail everyday

A very sad story Confused& Broken Hearted. Considering his history with dishonesty, I would be inclined to think he's not being honest right now. Counseling is a good idea as long as he's really willing to do it. It could help your marriage and maybe his gambling. It would be easy for me to say walk away, but it's not my heart that's invested in the relationship. You have to do what is best for you and your son. Twenty years together is a long time and walking away is not something to be taken lightly. Take some time to really think about what you want for you and yor son. If you truly believe things can work out go to counseling. It won't hurt and it might help. I wish you the very best during this very difficult time. Take care ((hug))

Confused and broken. You have seen a hell similar to what i have done and been through and you know what. Chances are he is sadly chances are councelling won't help but depending on the child's age I would suggest councelling for his gambling addiction as well as the marriage. Signed a lover with his own demons the worst of which is his heart.