The Problem With Husbands #1

One thing that most husbands (and significant others) fail to realize is that the person you fell in love with, the person you said you were committed forever to... IS the only person you're allowed to be with. It's common sense that there are millions of people out there that are compatible with millions of other people... when you commit to someone, you are saying to yourself: "out of every single person on this planet, I choose you." Now, what most people (mostly men) fail to do is tell themselves that when they make that commitment in front of God and everyone else.

A lot of husbands give up easy because they are selfish and feel entitled. This really has to do with someone's personality, influences, and upbringing. Both people in the relationship have to be grounded and rational. If either person isn't that way in their normal life, the relationship is going to be a lot harder. Relationships are filled with tons of compromise.

Now, one big problem is sex in a relationship. Men are naturally wired to think, feel, and want sex all the time. Women, most, no so much. I'm not saying women don't feel that way, it's just that men are chemically engineered to feel that way. It takes a lot of willpower to over come those feelings. Just being horny will cause a guy to think unfaithfully. So, you can see how a man having little willpower can cause things to go wrong.

The problem with a lot of husbands is... they don't know what they're getting into. They don't realize that they are now responsible for two people (or more). They don't realize that they can no longer make selfish decisions. They also don't know how to be a man and stay strong for their family.
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2 Responses Feb 8, 2013

men want more sex?!! Where are these men? This has NOT been the case in any personal or friends' relationships! This is a myth.

I don't know about the sex part. My husband refuses to touch me. For years I have tried and tried to get him to have sex. He acts like I am cover in scabs or something. All my life I have been told I am pretty but he makes me feel so ugly. Yes after my babies I gained weight. But he did not mind the fact that my best friend weighed as much as me when he wanted to have sex with her. What I am saying is if just wanting sex would make a person cheat, lie, and play a blame game then I would have already done that.

Men are no different then women. They make a choice. There is no way they don't know what it means to get married. Or they would not hide what they are doing. They would not play the blame game. They know just what they are doing. They plan to do it. They make a time and a place to do it. Although the need for sex is a strong need we are not dogs who can not control that need. Again I say they choose to break their marriage vows knowing full well they are doing so.