I Have A Cheating Wife
This is an open letter to my wife of 17 years. I caught her cheating on me 4 years ago with a client she met at work. I discovered the affair within the first month. I thought I was soon enough and I thought she would care enough about me and the marriage to end the affair immediately. I was wrong. She cheated again within a month of me finding out. Then she did a pretty good job of hiding it for six months. He lived out of state so I know she didn't **** him everyday.
Then in August 31 2009 I gps tracked her to a hotel near her company. I called the hotel and asked for him. They rang his room and I asked to speak to my wife. He hung up. I raced over there calling her phone. Once I got to the hotel and called the room from the lobby she sounded weird winded and light headed. Eventually she told me the room number and I went up. The room looked straight but it had been an hour and half since I she had gotten there.
After that I was ready for divorce. She begged me not to divorce her. I got a lawyer and he drew up a post nup. Basically taking away many female marriage right including alimony, child custody and child support. They were all my decisions now. I verbally agreed to stay with her for 3 months and she signed the agreement.
Now things are back to normal and I could not be more bored. I still gps track her and test her panties after a business trip. So far I have not turned up anything.
Now you have the background here is my open letter to her:
"I found the post nup in the file cabinet while working the on the taxes. I want to rip it up or burn it but before I do that I want to use this as an occasion to be open about my thoughts and feelings. And I hope you will trust me to finally put to rest the your remaining secrets and see by sharing them with me we can both enjoy them.
I love you, dark side and all, I want you to understand my dark side too. First of all you having boyfriend was a huge turn on, I told you that from the start. After I had the panic attack and was taken to the hospital the week I found out about Brian, I told how turned on I was. How hard I was all the time. Everything you told me you that you and Brian did the explicit sexting, the week in Decemeber a week before Christmas when you ****** him everyday at the Hampton inn. Three weeks later when you went on a business trip and promised he would not be there and ****** him again. And the time in August when I caught you with him at the Comfort Suites…that really turned me on! You knew when I caught using GPS 7 months afer the last time I caught you was a huge rush. We went out the following weekend playing a game where you would go to a bar and I would GPS track you and take you away from whatever guy was putting on the moves. The after I picked you up we went back to the same hotel I caught you in I wanted the same room. But had to settle for the room next to it. We had some of the hottest sex in years.
I think that time August was such a turn om due to me getting over the hurt and just enjoying the passion that the affair brought to both out lives. I believe that you and Brian did actually do something sexual that day in August although you deny it. Even though I called minutes after you got there it did not prevent you from having sex with him. You were in his room for an hour and a half. After 3 minutes you knew I was outside waiting when you were actually doing it. So hot!
Looking back 2009 was one of our best years. We became close in so many ways. Your energy and passion was high and we did so many things we had never done. I loved your shaved ***** and all the weight you lost. You also started swallowing again and gave me permission to perform oral on you again.
But the emotions were a lot for me to handle and I made mistakes and I have regrets. I regret bringing your family in. I called your mom during the hour and half you were in the hotel. I regret telling his wife each time I caught you or found email or a text. And I regret causing you to hide your feelings from me and hide your life from me. I regret making it harder for you to see him, which was your desire.
I had lost my faith in you but I shouldn’t have. After all you did everything right with your choice of boy friend. He was out of state and very little impact to your time with me. He was so different than me, an alpha male with huge muscles.
At the time I couldn’t handle it at all. This year with us both being 50 I feel we have crossed a new threshold in life and marriage. I see there are inconsistencies in our compatibility and I realize that I should have allowed you to fill those needs since he was able to do things I never will. I know now that our marriage is strong and was never at risk due to Brian or your time you spent with him. I know I have matured on this topic over the past four years. The pain and jealousy has subsided.
However I am confident you hold more secrets:
-Week in Feb when he was here on business. His wife came to watch him. But I believe you to found away. Be it in the secret room in your office or the back seat of the mini van.
-Ramdom times when I didn’t know he was in town like those 10 days I was Maryland early August and you were home alone. The kids were each at summer camp.I am confident he stayed out our house. Again big turn on, but if I knew at the time it would have ended the marriage.
-I am also confident that you have spoken since August 31 incident even though you insist September 1 2009 you told him you couldn't do it anymore. I also suspect that you saw each other, but you are preventing me from knowing.
-There have been other business trips you have made where I also wonder about Brian.
-Also things were said in 2009 that made me suspect that you did do things with Brian sexually that you have never done with me.
In spite of all of this I actually miss you having a boy friend. I don't miss the lying and drama but I miss your happiness, confidence and the excitement and passion that you brought home to me. I am hopeful that you will trust me and open up to me.
I do not plan on forgiving you, since I no longer think you were wrong. I plan to condone and support all the decisions you made concerning Brian or anyone else I yet know about. This includes all the suspected secrets I have listed. When I say I will ‘support’ your affair decisions, I mean to say that I will agree with defend all the decisions you made and all actions you took as rightful. Including the first decision in Novemeber 2008, when Brian was at your hotel and you decided to **** him, I support that. You were right and have my permission.
If you still see or talk to Brian occasionally or have another friend, I would like you to share that with me so we can both enjoy it together. Or if you have turned down someone who you really wanted to get to know, let me know . Maybe you can get to know him. If you let me in I promise I will only accept and allow and love you all the more for it.
So that is my dark secret.
I love you"
Then in August 31 2009 I gps tracked her to a hotel near her company. I called the hotel and asked for him. They rang his room and I asked to speak to my wife. He hung up. I raced over there calling her phone. Once I got to the hotel and called the room from the lobby she sounded weird winded and light headed. Eventually she told me the room number and I went up. The room looked straight but it had been an hour and half since I she had gotten there.
After that I was ready for divorce. She begged me not to divorce her. I got a lawyer and he drew up a post nup. Basically taking away many female marriage right including alimony, child custody and child support. They were all my decisions now. I verbally agreed to stay with her for 3 months and she signed the agreement.
Now things are back to normal and I could not be more bored. I still gps track her and test her panties after a business trip. So far I have not turned up anything.
Now you have the background here is my open letter to her:
"I found the post nup in the file cabinet while working the on the taxes. I want to rip it up or burn it but before I do that I want to use this as an occasion to be open about my thoughts and feelings. And I hope you will trust me to finally put to rest the your remaining secrets and see by sharing them with me we can both enjoy them.
I love you, dark side and all, I want you to understand my dark side too. First of all you having boyfriend was a huge turn on, I told you that from the start. After I had the panic attack and was taken to the hospital the week I found out about Brian, I told how turned on I was. How hard I was all the time. Everything you told me you that you and Brian did the explicit sexting, the week in Decemeber a week before Christmas when you ****** him everyday at the Hampton inn. Three weeks later when you went on a business trip and promised he would not be there and ****** him again. And the time in August when I caught you with him at the Comfort Suites…that really turned me on! You knew when I caught using GPS 7 months afer the last time I caught you was a huge rush. We went out the following weekend playing a game where you would go to a bar and I would GPS track you and take you away from whatever guy was putting on the moves. The after I picked you up we went back to the same hotel I caught you in I wanted the same room. But had to settle for the room next to it. We had some of the hottest sex in years.
I think that time August was such a turn om due to me getting over the hurt and just enjoying the passion that the affair brought to both out lives. I believe that you and Brian did actually do something sexual that day in August although you deny it. Even though I called minutes after you got there it did not prevent you from having sex with him. You were in his room for an hour and a half. After 3 minutes you knew I was outside waiting when you were actually doing it. So hot!
Looking back 2009 was one of our best years. We became close in so many ways. Your energy and passion was high and we did so many things we had never done. I loved your shaved ***** and all the weight you lost. You also started swallowing again and gave me permission to perform oral on you again.
But the emotions were a lot for me to handle and I made mistakes and I have regrets. I regret bringing your family in. I called your mom during the hour and half you were in the hotel. I regret telling his wife each time I caught you or found email or a text. And I regret causing you to hide your feelings from me and hide your life from me. I regret making it harder for you to see him, which was your desire.
I had lost my faith in you but I shouldn’t have. After all you did everything right with your choice of boy friend. He was out of state and very little impact to your time with me. He was so different than me, an alpha male with huge muscles.
At the time I couldn’t handle it at all. This year with us both being 50 I feel we have crossed a new threshold in life and marriage. I see there are inconsistencies in our compatibility and I realize that I should have allowed you to fill those needs since he was able to do things I never will. I know now that our marriage is strong and was never at risk due to Brian or your time you spent with him. I know I have matured on this topic over the past four years. The pain and jealousy has subsided.
However I am confident you hold more secrets:
-Week in Feb when he was here on business. His wife came to watch him. But I believe you to found away. Be it in the secret room in your office or the back seat of the mini van.
-Ramdom times when I didn’t know he was in town like those 10 days I was Maryland early August and you were home alone. The kids were each at summer camp.I am confident he stayed out our house. Again big turn on, but if I knew at the time it would have ended the marriage.
-I am also confident that you have spoken since August 31 incident even though you insist September 1 2009 you told him you couldn't do it anymore. I also suspect that you saw each other, but you are preventing me from knowing.
-There have been other business trips you have made where I also wonder about Brian.
-Also things were said in 2009 that made me suspect that you did do things with Brian sexually that you have never done with me.
In spite of all of this I actually miss you having a boy friend. I don't miss the lying and drama but I miss your happiness, confidence and the excitement and passion that you brought home to me. I am hopeful that you will trust me and open up to me.
I do not plan on forgiving you, since I no longer think you were wrong. I plan to condone and support all the decisions you made concerning Brian or anyone else I yet know about. This includes all the suspected secrets I have listed. When I say I will ‘support’ your affair decisions, I mean to say that I will agree with defend all the decisions you made and all actions you took as rightful. Including the first decision in Novemeber 2008, when Brian was at your hotel and you decided to **** him, I support that. You were right and have my permission.
If you still see or talk to Brian occasionally or have another friend, I would like you to share that with me so we can both enjoy it together. Or if you have turned down someone who you really wanted to get to know, let me know . Maybe you can get to know him. If you let me in I promise I will only accept and allow and love you all the more for it.
So that is my dark secret.
I love you"
By:
bobj27
Age:
46-50
,
Male
