Sometimes I just love his logic. Recently, since he's 15, he's been talking about wanting to get a job. He mentioned maybe a fast food place. I told him that we need to work more on his multitasking skills and people skills first. He doesn't like touch and those little things we do to be polite, he sees no reason for.

Anyhow, I was telling him that when applying for a job, he'd have to shake someones hand. Also, it's not likely that he'd just be able to work in the kitchen. Eventually he'd at least be at the front register. He'd have to say things like, "Hi, how are you doing today?"

This was his response:
"I don't like fake people, so I don't want to be fake. I don't like it when people ask me things like that, because I know they don't really care how I'm doing. It's like lying. I'd rather people not waste my time and just take my order. Why do people want to be lied to so much? I don't understand?"

You know he actually makes a lot of sense. Do we really care how some stranger is doing? Not usually, so yes it is like pretending to care or lying.
RhombusInTheSquare RhombusInTheSquare
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3 Responses Jan 10, 2013

Your son is so right. We typically do not think near as logically as he does.

I like his logic too. He always sounds like a great person. I think it's a real shame that these folks get such a rotten label. I have a real time buddy with Asperger's and a couple online buddies with it too and I respect the heck out of all of them. I like that direct no BS side to all of their personalities.... No guess work.... just truth....

I like that blunt aspect too. They just call it like they see it which is refreshing.

It's true. 90% of our interactions are impractical and inefficient, but we are a social species and we all have to live together. Your son is not lacking intelligence, nor the powers of observation. However, we are a species that evolved around ego stroking of others. It goes back to monkeys grooming each other to strengthen bonds for survival, which in the context of modern society and large groupings of people, especially in cities, doesn't really apply any longer. He will at some point simply have to decide if the thing he wants (a job) is worth more to him than what he doesn't want to do (play societies games).

Actually that is what we discussed. He understands that he has to play the game. I never thought of explaining it to him with the monkey analogy though.