Girls On The Spectrum
I am hoping some parents or grandparents out there can help me with my daughter. She is four years old, but acts and speaks more like a two year old. She has always been behind, but I always thought she would just catch up eventually. Basically, I have been in denial. I think what threw me off was all the research about children with autism were more about boys than girls. It wasn't until I read an article about girls being under diagnosed, did it finally click that she may have a form of autism. Many people tried telling me, but I kept denying it. She is very snuggly and makes eye contact. I have never noticed any stimming (arms flapping, lining objects up, etc.). She has been to a neurologist, but needs to see a couple more doctors. I guess I am just looking for hope. I am still holding on to the hope that she will be fine when she grows up, even if she does have some challenges. I worry about her having friends, because kids are already mean to her. She just doesn't understand how to play with kids properly. She knocks down towers other kids build and messes up their puzzles they put together. It's like she doesn't quite understand cause and effect no matter how many times she does these things. She also has terrible meltdowns if I am not careful. I find myself not disciplining her in public, just to prevent a scene. She had a meltdown today, at the store, because I wouldn't hold her. She also doesn't like to be separated from her brother. I have been trying very hard to make her more independent by not holding her so much and she has gotten a lot better. I'm sure a lot of you would understand that she has her good weeks and bad weeks. She is in Special Ed preschool, with speech and occupational therapy and social work. I tried putting her in swimming, but the gym told me she should be in private lessons because of her delay. Private is too expensive.
Anyway, any help would be appreciated. I am mainly looking for comments from parents of girls with autism. Thanks! C