God's Special Gift to Me , a Child With Autism.

     My daughter is now 15 years old,  and my husband - deceased since 2005,  we first notice she was different when she was a year old.  She had a very limited vocabulary, and only said one word at a time.  She mostly made different sounds that were strange. She did a lot of hand flapping at this time, it eventually went away. She love to look at magazines,  flipping the pages over and over.   When i took her to the pediatrician for her check up we discussed her developmental delays.   He recommended that she start seeing a speech therapist, and a neurologist at age 1 1/2.  She was evaluated by the school board, and when she reached age three she started school.  She was diagnosed as being mildly autistic.  She is non-verbal, and my hope is that one day she will speak.  She is in special education (elementary school).  She is in  inclusion (some regular classes), and in special ed.  Next school year she will start high school.  When she gets to high school she will train for a job, and how to take care of herself.  I have been doing my best to make her as independent as possible.

     She is a beautiful girl, she doesn't always make eye contact.  Most people think that she is just being shy.  She loves to run and play.  She loves going to the movies, and eating  buttered popcorn.  Some times i think she is more interested in the popcorn than the movie. She loves to watch videos (Disney movies are her favorite). It's very rare that she has a melt down.  She is a happy child and i do every thing in my power to keep her that way.  She loves to eat, and the older she gets the more she is interested in trying new foods.  She loves to go grocery shopping, and I let her pick out things she would like to snack on.

     I don't know what the future holds for my daughter, that scares me.  I hope and pray that one day she will be able to talk. At school, they have been teaching her sign language, (the Pecs System ect...).  She amazes me sometimes with the things she's able to do.  It's hard to know what she is thinking, since she can't tell me.  I know deep down inside there is a brilliant mind at work.  She is the most important person in my life.  I accepted the fact that she has autism a long time ago.  I have and always will do what ever it takes to give her a good life.

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6 Responses Sep 13, 2007

you are truely awesome...the first part of your title should be every womans first part of a sentence when it comes to children....regardless of how they come, they are truely gifts from Him...and if we pay attention we see Him in them....

My autistic cousin Mel loves to work with electronics. This one time, whn he was ten he tore apart his grandmother's VCR and put it back together, and it still works :) I hope things work out for your daughter.

Boedacia,<br />
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It certainly helped me. My son is 16 and has a problem judging the right amount of time he should make eye contact for. I'm going to mention the 5 second method you use.<br />
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Thank you so much for sharing.

I left out .....LUKE,...My bad;)

dear mysticfire, <br />
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She loves food and new foods. I would say cooking or writing about food, drawing pictures etc. I Cooked from a very early age. And can not follow a recipe more than once. Sometimes not even the first time. <br />
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Keep a foodie journal, I would start with the spices and herbs, look crush smell taste, add different things so she can totaling integrate each 'new'. Even odd things like sauces taste and analize like wine tasting, lists all the weird measurements ( a pinch, palm, or 3 tsp = a TBS, this many eggs in a cup etc.) <br />
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Go to fancy cooking stores and check out every gadget, pot and pan, go to the farmers market and meet the people, very quickly she will become a favorite, and will always have that instant communication and community. do the same with resturants, Especially the exotic ones, lots of mama's and aunties. <br />
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The eye contact thing was for me and still is a matter of making other people more comfortable. So I do the 5 seconds look, 5 seconds look away. <br />
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It is interesting to look at peoples faces, ask her maybe to look at yours and her own in the mirror then talk about the different muscle movements around the eyes. <br />
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See how you squinted that was interesting, what were you thinking of just then? Did you see some dirt on your nose and wonder how it got there? Now watch my eyes in the mirror, and guess what I am thinking, Maybe widen your eyes in surprise.<br />
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This is just a few thoughts I am still that kid very much. And don't pick up a lot of the meanings the simple direct ones yes but a mutliple meaning not so much and my facial ex<x>pressions are like watching a mime. Rarely even occurs to me to think of how I might be "looking from the outside" Poker is not my game. <br />
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Now StarWars Monopoly, I can play BOM, BOM, BOM BOM- ba BOM, Schcuuuuuuuhh, hreuuuu, Schsucuuuuu, Hrreuuuuuh, I am your Faaather, schcuuuuhhhm, Hreerreuuuu, TOGETHER WE CAN RULE THE EMPIRE, schcuuuuuh, Hreeeruuu, NUh-OOOOOO! <br />
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any way don't know if any of this helps.

hi . what a beautiful story . Your daughter is lucky to have you and you her. My grandson is 3 1/2 . He goes to preschool . The last couple weeks he has been talking more and more , 3 to 4 word sentances. plus his own jibbers. he also loves to look at books and disney movies . You sound like a very strong minded person . I believe your daughter will have a fullfilled life because of you. May the stars always shine bright for you