Ok so we were together for 6 yrs we have boys and i just left him a month ago. hw has always been super controling and abusive in all ways.So im trying to start my life over but he i wont leave me alone. we have agreed not to go to court as long as he pays my child support and he see the kids. I allow him to come to my house 2 nights out of the week for 2hours to visit the boys because they are only 5 and 17 months. he also gets the everyother weekend. He still trys to control me with everything that he can think of like..... if i dont give him a hug before he leaves after a visit he say he wont pay all his child supprt or if i want sit and talk and agree on crazy things he randomly thinks of then he will quit his job.... and by crazy things i mean i have to tell him where im going at all times with the kids he wants to know who they are around at all times.... what i do on my weekends with out the kids..... he pays for the cell phone that i have only cause we have a contract, but he always thretens to take it or see if im talking to any guys.....i dont have a job because i was never allowed to work while i was with him so i don't have the money to pay for things like a phone or gas in my car so im constantly agree to things so that he will contuine to give me money so that i can try and find a job to support my kids on my own. he calls me at least 3 times a day to bug me to fix things if i dont answer the phone he just shows up at my house! i just want to be done with him and i dont know what to do i hate confrintation and fights im to nice of a person to take him to court and put my kids theought that crap cause thats how i grew up and i hated it.................................... so please if anyone can help me or give me some adive it would be a great help thankyou!