Mother-in-law Is Ok When Medicated

I knew from day this one could be trouble. Never. marry. into. a. family. where most of them think you are inferior and they need psychotropic meds to boot! Examples? here you go... used items disgust me ( almost everything i own is second-hand), people who drive brand xxx car are either poor or stupid (I love that brand and she knew it), factory workers are stupid and have no class (said while I worked at a factory), that coat is a dirty rag that is fit for your wife to wear but not you (said to H), retarded people live worthless lives (I work in that field and love it), houses aren't worth anything in your parents neighborhood (like you're rich, *****), and the big funny... when H started going out with me, she told him not to get me pregnant. When the brother started going out with a doctor, she said wouldn't it be nice to have a doctor in the family? had her a shower, saying it was her job, gave her the grandmother's jewelry, and said that they had a nice wedding because some women WANT to look like a BRIDE. (??) she left me out of FIL's obit. when child was born, I couldn't do anything right, so I sat down and made a list of everything that made me crazy about her. They fell into two categories, 1. elitism, 2. germs and I realized that she is OCD. H and I went through several counselors before one had the nads to say H if you love this woman, then stand up for her!! Your mom is being a *****. So H finally made an effort. Nobody in the family would believe she was like that until she said she didn't care if she never saw my son again, if it meant not having to see me. Son has not forgiven her even though he was small then and I tried to explain she didn't feel good then. Eventually MIL's OCDs got the best of her and she had to be medicated. When she is medicated she likes me, when she goes off them she targets me, as H calls it.

For my part, I kept my mouth shut too many times and tried to play nice. I really don't know what she means when she said I said horrible things to her so many times. She refused to tell me what any of them were which leads me to believe there were not any. Although I've complained like a longshoreman to H and close friends. Oh, did I mention she tried to pay H to leave me?

I understand she has mental health problems and is also an elitist *****, but now that she takes her pills and is really trying to be decent, I feel bad for and make nice. I understand that she is old and falling apart and feeling alone so do what I can to help her. But you know what? We'll never be close, it's just too little, too damn late. Oh, my. I feel better.