My Crazy MotherOh where to start?
My mom is enveloped in her own belief that she is the victim and everyone wants to hurt her. Because of this, she tends to create arguments where there are none and bring down people who aren't really trying to hurt her, including myself. For example, I have tried to discuss with her how the way she talks to me sometimes makes me feel, and instead of listening to me and trying to fix the situation she uses my words to twist around and make it sound like I'm calling her dumb, saying shes a horrible person, that I don't love her (I get this one a lot), and that I don't want to talk to her. Naturally, when she does these things I really DON'T want to talk to her. Not only that but it makes me feel like I'm a terrible person who has attacked my mother when that isn't what I did at all. It seems like any time I try to talk to her about how she talks to me or she places rules or has me do things just because "she's the mother and she can." However, I am now 19 years old and this attitude just isn't working for me anymore. It really isn't my job to make sure she's always happy and take care of her. She's in her 30's so she isn't aging at this point. She's a grown woman who needs to take care of herself and let me take care of myself. It's very frustrating because I find I just can't talk to her without becoming a villain. If anyone here knows the feeling and/or how to deal with this. I would welcome the advice. All I really want is a good relationship with my mom but it's hard sometimes when I behave in a more mature fashion than she does.