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i dont know how to deal with this . i really dont like me mom she leaves me in the house bymyself alone then comes back high im only 12 years old and she doesnt like my grand ma nor she does my father i dont have a problem with them splitting up but this is just crazy shes making me stay away from my dad for a month and im trying to control my anger sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo bad just not to hit her across the face please give me advice ( ; ty!!!!!!!!@!!!
lolicia1234 lolicia1234
13-15
2 Responses May 21, 2012

Hi there,<br />
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I am not much older than you and also had to deal with a similar situation. All I can suggest is to make your friends your family, I surrounded myself with positive people who cared about me and that was all I needed. I started working at 15 and at 16 I was paying 400 bucks a month to rent a room in a townhouse just to get away from my psycho mother and step mother. You are young- try babysitting for neighbourhood kids, its a good way to get out of the house and to make some extra money. If you need a friend please message me.

Hi Ty,<br />
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I'm sorry about what you're going through. I've gone through a similar situation and unfortunately it only got progressively worse. <br />
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The adivice I have for you won't sound familiar and it won't be what a family service or social worker will tell you. <br />
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What you need to do is try to remove yourself from your family - emotionally, intellectually and in regards to future goals. That is the only way to survive. You'll deal with this and the trauma of it for the rest of your life but you can still be a successful and happy person. <br />
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Attach yourself to ANY one of your friends' and their families that are kind and respectful and empathetic (even if you're not going to tell them anything and believe me, you don't have to tell them anything - let them help you by being there). <br />
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If you have siblings, don't forget them or avoid them. I know it is painful but they are going to be your support network for the rest of your life and you and your siblings (if you have them) need each other! <br />
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Try not to get into trouble - or if you do, don't get caught. It will make it so much worse at home if you get in trouble. <br />
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keep a level head, find a goal for the future about getting out and focus on it - you can get through this! It's not fair, it sucks and it's more painful than most people in developed and non-wartorn countries will ever experience. But, it's doable. I know. I'm now a a PhD at a university. I had noone but my one sibling (a year older) at age 5 and my grandfather and his wife next door. It is possible. And you will be happy one day, trust me! xoxoxk8