Neighbors Deliberately Makes Noise During Down Time And MimicksI have a neighbor that makes an effort to make deliberately loud noises when its obvious that my family and I are settling down or preparing for sleep. They do not have a family and live under us. I have a five year old son who has a NATURAL tendency to run and jump, but we try to advisehim to settle down and regularly remind him that we have neighbors below us.
It has come to a point where the person has created a pattern with little variation. I have been logging. It is to the point where I can tell a guest, "Sit back and wait for it," and it happens.
The neighbor was fine at first. Actually, they were to the point where we never heard a thing. Then a year and a half later, we noticed that they were home more and no longer seemed to have their usual 9-5 schedule. The neighbor made a first complaint by my using of a shredder around two something in the afternoon. I had no idea they were home; eithr way, the device is not what I consider "disturbing" unless you want it to be. Either way their complaint was made by the hint of blasting their music to kingdom come. When I stopped the device, they cut it off. When I start it up again, they blasted their music again. I looked out the window to check for the car, and didn't see it. I waited about ten minutes before resuming. When I turned it back on one last time, the music came on again - to a point of shaking the house. I looked out the window one last time, and finally the car was parked there. I assumed they were parked elsewhere at first but then left out to bring it to the front.
Eitherway, ever since then things have been crazy. I decided to work out for the first time in the back in the bedroom. This was in the afternoon on a Saturday for heaven's sake. I did no more than ten jumping jacks before they were knocking on my door. I apologized, stopped my exercising. Since then I've moved all noisy devices to my bedroom incl exercise equipment. I've composed a notice and attached it to the neighbors door making my intentions clear and advising what I've done in order to respect their right to peace and enjoyment. Even specified the expected time span in which I'd work out. Our lease states the time of disturbance starts at 11:00p. (mentioned that as well). Basically, I made it clear that if they ever have a n issue to clip a note to my door or knock so that we discuss. I made it clear that I have I am caring and considerate to my neighbors.
Seems it was fine for a few months, but then it just got worst; its now been a year later. Now I've found the pattern that whenever it sounds like we're settling down, they make ridiculous noise. When we're up and about (clearning, cooking, washing, perhaps my son skipping to and fro...when it sounds busy, there is no peep out of the neighbor).
Like at this very moment. Out of consideration of my neighbors, I wash one a week and always start at noon. Its a considerate time I think, especially being that I work 8-12 hours a day and I do not have time to wash and clean during the mid of day like the neighbor downstairs. The issue is that it takes a good 6 hours. If I had time during the day to space out the washing throughout the week for shorter times, I would. My weekly washing obviously disturbs the neighbor below. And my coming home after 7 to cook and clean (which requires me to walk around much) bothers them. Anyways, my husband and I have been up since 7a. As soon as my husband it out of the shower, the neighbor below has been banging all around the apartment ever since. There is no reason you can think of to justify excessively loud banging for 3 consecutive hours. Slamming of cabinets, drawers, washing machines. Its all we've been hearing all morning. I really feel bad for the neighbors below them.
Throughout the week, they do things like make noise when we retire to bed or nap or to relax with a movie. There was once when it seemed like every time we settled down for dinner (various times in the evening), they would turn on their music. One time my son and I were in the back room and for the first time every I decided to use our entertainment system for his Iron Man. It was only about 5 pm on a Sunday. It was loud but not to a point in which is was excessive or disturbing unless you wanted it to be. I handnt seen their car. assumed they werent home. I could not hear it from our living room so I assumed it was an okay volume with the teniest bit of bass. The next morning, I was off work, the neighbor could not wait. Eight AM they BLASTED THEIR entertainment systems to the point of rocking the house. That's when I knew, Oops, they were home.
I dont work via hints of making noise deliberately to a neighbor to make a point. I prefer conversation or notices. I've done both. When watering a plant, some water trickled on their balcony and i was considerate enough to knock on their door, inform them and apologize. And it the usualy fake, rushed resposne, "It's okay." I'm very considerate with how I tip toe around the house, i dont slam drawers and cabinets, i'm ridiculously considerate after seeing how crazy the neighbor is.
But its only getting worst. The neighbor fails to understand that what bothers them does not bother me, so I'll continue to take care of my family in the considerate manner that I do. I refuse to change anything solely because of their disrespectful hints. If I am making noise, its all natural and unintenal - every day living. This neighbor is trying to bother us intentionally. I'm not bothered by the noise per say (I know that in apartments it comes with the package and I'm just not sensitive to noise), but I am bothered by the fact that the neighbor is making the noise to deliberately bother my family.
The neighbor must see that no matter what they do, I will not response with mutual disrespect. But it seems to be getting worst.
My greatest fear is my husband noticing. He's been somewhat oblivious, but recently, with the sounds getting worst and all, he's been noticing a bit more and I'm starting to see his irritation. He's a former marine with no tolerance for disrespect. He's 5'10 and under 200lbs and he has effortlessly defeated a 6 ft 3 in 300+ younger man for his deliberate disrespectful behaviour. I do not want to go through that again. The neighbor has tried to confront my husband once and my husband immediately, but kindly let them know that their complaint was insensible, but apologized that he felt the way he did. (My husband was flipping off dust from an area rug and dust barely touched the rim of the neighbors balcony post.) According to my husband who volunteers to speak of his interactions with neighbors, has told me on a few occassions he's found the neighbor sitting in their car staring over at him. just staring.
I will talk no more. I will send no more posts. I will apologize no longer. But today the neighbor is being their most ridiculous and I've found myself tempted to talk to my husband about it, but I know that will only reassure what he's been noticing...they're both at home doing the day and the last I need is acall from my husband from jail or the hospital.
I have no choice it seems but to go to the rental office and make a complaint. But with all the effort I've made on my own, I'm pretty sure that will greatly and certainly make it even worst.
Ultimately, it sounds like the neighbor is going to keeping getting worst until he finds that he's successfully bother me by me responding. The neighbor has slammed cabines and drawers and dropped ehaving items slammed the washer and dryer over 100 times this morning (i WISH i was exaggerating).
Please be more than welcome to suggest that I am wrong and what could possibly going on. But keep in mind, while this may sound absurd, everyone is NOT sane and there are TERRIBLE neighbors who intentionally are disrespectful to others and I just may have one of those neighbors.
Please kindly advise with your suggestions and opinions.
darkhoney35 36-40 10 Responses 1 Oct 24, 2010