Just A Harmless Crush, A Victimless Crime ReallyFirst let me say that I believe the crush is mutual and that neither of us will ever disclose or act on it. It may not even be mutual, but that doesn't matter. This delightful crush does not affect work, except to make the mundane a bit more exciting. It gives me extra reason to think about what I might wear and whether to get to work extra early. At the same time we respect each other as professionals and we set a good example for others in the workplace.
Still, there is something...
The picture is just for visual effect. Neither of us is a supermodel, but we have both worked to keep in shape and held up well since we first met about 15 years ago through work. Eye contact and smiles, an awareness that we are admiring each other, have a lot to do with this crush. She is not technically my boss, not anymore. She was for a year and a half, a pretty great 18 months. Now, by twist of fate, I am her boss, so I am certainly not going to do anything stupid. No more stupid than I would otherwise do anyway. The crush is too delightful to ruin.
There is a good chance that our roles may reverse again someday. I think I liked it better that way, with her as the boss.