I Am In Love With My Girlfriend's Niece

I love her, she's a kind, loving and breathtakingly beautiful woman. Her mother died when she was young, and she essentially raised her younger brother and sister. She graduated from High School class valedictorian. She earned her Bachelor's Degree at 21. Her Masters at 23. She's incredibly bright. We spent a lot of time together learning from and about each other. We have developed a very intimate, non-sexual relationship.

She met a man and she moved to Ohio. Despite my feelings for her, I supported her decision while her family thought otherwise. She's been there for about a year and a half. She's been building her life out there. She got a teaching job. I am so happy for her.

She called me last week in tears telling me that she needs to come home. I flew her back home. She was having relationship issues, she spent the weekend with her family. I saw her for about half an hour. I thought I was over her. When I did see her, I realized that I wasn't over her. I have a very deep affection for her.

The conversation we had was very brief, but a lot was revealed. I discovered that she was unfailingly attracted to me and that she shouldn't have told me, maybe she's losing her mind. I told her that the feeling was mutual and we kissed. It wasn't one of those deep passionate kisses. It was a simple kiss on the lips. We spoke no more.

Since she left, I have had a silent, yet strong longing for her. We both know that it shouldn't and wouldn't happen again. Our affection is strong. We will be there for each other through thick and thin. I want her to be happy. She deserves to be happy. With or without me, I don't care. As long as she's happy.
TheLovingDominant TheLovingDominant 36-40, M 3 Responses Aug 8, 2012

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So what happened?

I had a similar senario with my girlfriends neice. She kept saying where can I find a bloke that's like you staring deeply into my eyes across the table (She was a bit drunk lol). Then oneday she hugged me goodbye and was embarrassingly all over me whilst visiting us and whispered about just the 2 of us running away and getting married. My male instincts started to kick in and naughty/guilty thoughts went through my mind ...sorry I'm human... but I explained that it could never happen. We hardly speak anymore after being so close. I think I did the right thing but I do still think about it. I hope people understand?

Wow! Hang in there

I learned that she and her boyfriend broke up and she's coming back home on September 1st. I'll be picking her up from the airport. Mixed emotions man. Mixed emotions.

I think that you should both sit down and openly talk about your feeling and then make mutualy decide what to do. You only have one life and living it with regret is a waste.

I'm having a happy, though somewhat sexless relationship with her Aunt. Whom I love very much. Her niece is about 13 years younger than I. I would like her to experience her life and all that it has to offer, preferably with someone around her age who has not let life kick him in the balls like I have.

If you have the best intentions for her, then you should give both of you a chance to be happy as well. At the very least, be good friends and see how it goes, as for the sexless relationship with her aunt, what's the point? You and her aunt can just be friends too.

Things have a way of working themselves out. All is well.

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