Carl Jung's Personality Theory
His theory that we each have a darker, less personally and/or socially acceptable makes sense to me. I have struggled to accept my character defects and even love them so their power to shame me and cause guilt and other unpleasant feelings is diminished.
Acknoledging that I have unpleasant defects that cause problems relating with others and prevent me from succeeding in life is the first step towards accepting them, loving them for how well they have served me up to this point then asking them to go away. The interesting thing is they will always be with me, but in a weakened form. I try to simply nod at my darkness and try to move on without punishing myself excessively. EP has been a godsend for processing my feelings.
Basically, I find other things to do with my time. I need to replace the old acts with healthier ones- more accurate beliefs and greater tolerance towards myself and others.