From Columbia

My daughter's new boyfriend is from Columbia.  He and his family immigrated to Canada only 10 months ago.  He speaks pretty good English, but naturally hangs out the the other Latino/Latina kids at school.  My daughter does not understand Spanish.  She's told me that he worries about how comfortable she is not understanding most of their conversations.  Apparently, his friends say "don't worry, she'll learn Spanish".  I have no problem with people keeping their culture, language and heritage.  I grew up in a household where my father and grandparents continued to speak their language and keep their culture after immigrating to this country.  I just hope my daughter has the strength and confidence to say "I'm not comfortable with this and would you all please speak English so that I can understand".   I will have to talk to her about this.

Francescanolonger Francescanolonger
46-50, F
3 Responses Mar 7, 2009

An update - they seem to have come to a compromise with regard to the language issues. <br />
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I'm finding the differences in culture interesting--particularly teen culture in that according to Paulo, teens in Columbia like to party, but do not drink to get drunk like a lot of the teens do here. It sounds as though when they have a party there is almost always food and dancing involved. From what I've seen here (and I saw it last night), kids will get a bottle of vodka or some other hard liquor and drink until they are completely blotto.

I know from experience how hard it is to sit amongst a group of people who do not speak English. <br />
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On the other hand, I told her she should try to learn a few words and phrases because it's never a bad idea to learn a new language.<br />
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We had the young man join us for supper last night and I have to say he is probably one of the nicest boys she's dated so far.

This is a very interesting circumstance. Keep us posted on how that goes. I agree that her asking them to speak English when they are in a group is the best thing to do.