Estranged From Son & Dil
Every since my son met his now wife she has not tried to become part of our family. It appears it's been her goal to create "their" family to the exclusion of us. That would be fine if she did the same with HER parents and family. But NO - they are great and we're nothing. Mothers of sons are penalized for having sons - they cannot share the birth of their grandchildren or other events. Her mother is the important one. I fault my son for not having the courage to face up to her and say " try to be nice to my Mom - she's not here that often". My only goal is to enjoy the grandchildren and have fun with them. Take them on trips and have them visit with us. My son has not allowed me to visit on many occasions when I've been in town - giving lame excuses even putting training their dog before me. I have bit my toungue many times to not say anything critical - yet they don't hesitate to criticize my husband and I. . I don't know the reasons - whenever I ask - he says nothing is wrong and yet his wife told my husband she doesn't like me, I am beneath her and am not welcome in their home! No reason. I did a bad thing recently and didn't control my temper and wrote my son a poison pen email - I realize I shouldn't have but at this point I had nothing to lose - they were ignoring me and treating me terribly. My DIL unfriended me on Facebook so I can't see photos of the children. I resorted to Facebook because I had asked her to send me photos many times and she never did. Now I have no way to watch them grow. I'm trying to get over it but it's not easy. I tried to speak with him but he doesn't call back. I suppose I'll have to wait until perhaps they realize they made some mistakes in the situation.