Having a depressed partner isn't fun. You can't make them get help for it. I made my husband take an online quiz about depression by himself and he scored Depressed! He went to the doctor and was put on some medication which I could see such a big and Improved change in his attitude and everything else. He said he didn't feel any different. He stopped taking the meds. I live with Chronic Pain every day and to have him depressed and being negative to me and everything the doctors want to do to me, I can't take much more. He is smothering me. He is the one who has to admit he's depressed and he is the one that has to take the first step. I tried. I guess he likes living in turmoil. I don't.