Tired Of The Pessimism

I know I recently wrote a story about how my mother texts me late at night to make sure I'm okay. Well, something similar happened.  My parents are out of town this weekend for a wedding.  I texted my mother and asked her if they would be home Sunday or Monday because I'd forgotten.  A couple hours later, she answered, but then she asked, "Is anything wrong?"  That just made me totally lose it.  I'm glad we were texting instead of talking.  I responded, "Just because I text you doesn't mean anything is wrong.  And if I don't text you, that doesn't mean something is wrong either."

I am getting so tired of her constant worrying.  That's what it always is.  Like I said in my last story in this group, if I'm not home early, and she hasn't heard from me in a while, she stays up and worries that something is wrong.  But tonight was just the opposite.  I actually DID contact her, and she automatically assumed something was wrong.  I never even bother telling her when I leave the house because I know the response will be, "Be careful!", "Get home early!", "Let me know if you'll be gone past midnight!", or something of that nature.  When I come home, unless I come straight home from work, it's always the same greeting.  "Are you okay?" or something of that nature.  Not a simple "Hey, how are you doing?" or "Did you have fun?"  It's always something to do with my general safety.  Same thing when we talk on the phone.

She defends herself by saying that she's my mom and moms are supposed to be concerned about their children.  While I do agree with that to an extent, I think there is a fine line between being concerned and being paranoid.  If she was never concerned about me, that would make her a bad mother.  I have friends with good parents who love them, but they don't constantly wonder where they are and whether or not they've been run over by an 18 wheeler.  Basic concern for family and friends is a good thing, but always expecting something to be wrong is just unhealthy.  It would just be nice if for once, she could say, "Have fun!" before I leave instead of "Be careful!" or "Hey, nice to see you!" when I get home rather than, "Is everything okay?"

It's just a pessimistic view to always expect something to be wrong, and like I said, concern for others is healthy, but pessimism and always expecting the worst is not.
RopinTexan RopinTexan
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Sep 30, 2012